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3 year old ds who refuses to do anything in the toilet

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sarahlou1uk · 17/04/2006 19:48

Help!! I have a 3yr ds who is wearing pull ups. He will quite happily sit on the toilet but only when he has already poo'ed in his nappy and we have to flush it away. He then wants to sit on the toilet and read magazines and books. Forget about wee's - when I ask him if he wants a wee he just says "wee'd in nappy." Does anyone recommend a good potty training book? I've seen one in ELC but he doesn't show any interest when I get it off the shelf and show it to him. If I push the matter, he starts to scream and get upset. Has anyone else been in this situation. I'm getting quite desperate now as I'm 22 weeks pregnant with my second and want him out of nappies before his sister arrives!! He also starts nursery two days a week next week but they don't mind if he's not quite dry. I've told him that the other boys & girls at his new school wear pants and not nappies but he's not falling for it. I've even bought special pants that he wanted with Thomas and Bob the builder on to encourage him. HELP - blooming pull ups are expensive. New baby is going to use reuseables.

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pupuce · 17/04/2006 19:50

so leave him out of pull ups... see how long he will last without them... it's you or him who "gives in" first

pupuce · 17/04/2006 19:51

I should SIL told her son that she had no more nappy... and she had not bought anymore, so she meant it!

NannyL · 17/04/2006 21:35

take him out of pull ups which are nappies and get on with it....

hopefully shouldnt take long..... if you must read a book try gina ford potty training in a week for some hints

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Orinoco · 18/04/2006 21:19

Going against the flow... I'd leave it for a few weeks (if you can before he starts nursery) and then try again. My dd2 was like this - she'd scream hysterically when I tried to get her to sit on the toilet or potty, unless fully clothed! However, one day she just decided that she was going to use the toilet and we went completely nappyless from that point - she had it sussed within 24 hours and she had very few accidents because she knew exactly what she was doing.

I think if you're fretting about it your anxiety will be picked up by him, and he'll worry without really knowing why IKSWIM? If you decide yo forget all about it for a few weeks, lift the tension, he'll probably crack it easily.

hth!

Nightynight · 18/04/2006 21:58

I have one of these children at the moment as well.

Me: come on, sit on the potty.(bringing potty invitingly forward)
Her: No, dont want sit on potty.

I think I will leave it for a bit, but am not pressed as she wont start maternelle til September.

frogs · 18/04/2006 22:08

Ditch the pullups and toilet train him, ie. go cold turkey. Get a potty if he has bad associations with the toilet and put him on it every hour on the hour to start with. Don't ask if he needs a wee, just tell him 'It's time to do a wee on the potty now'. Setting the timer on the cooker is a good way to make it look like something he has to do, rather than something mummy has dreamt up to annoy him.

Buy an intriguingly fiddly toy which he can only play with on the potty, or some new books (to keep him there for long enough when he's due a poo). Tell him he will get a sticker or a chocolate button every time he does a wee on the potty.

You might want to join cod's easter potty-training thread for extra moral support. As long as you keep your nerve it'll all be over before you know it.

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