I have been separated from my ex for 3 years. We have 3 children together; twin boys that are 19 and a daughter that is 17. We were common-law and everything was in his name. So after a short court battle, we were officially separated the first year and I have nothing after 18 years together. He has the family home, the vehicles, all the toys, etc. This could be a very long story and feel free to ask for more details. My ex has a business which he is quite successful with and one of our sons works for him. Both our sons live with their girlfriends (parents) and our daughter lives with my ex. Over the years the kids have gone back and forth but my daughter has remained in the family home. My ex has provided the kids with vehicles, cell phones, loans, and he has a huge shop where they can all go to hang out with their friends. I live in an apartment and I have a small income. Most of my money goes to just paying my bills and getting by. So now you have some background...
My ex has never gotten over the fact that I left him and he is very angry still and holds a lot of resentment towards me. He doesn't have any trouble voicing this to our kids and anyone that'll listen. My kids are now being controlled by him. If they come to see me, they have to hear about it when they go see him or for my daughter when she goes home. It's gotten so bad that now I never see them. If I do have plans with them he somehow manipulates them into not doing it or in my daughters case he threatens to take material Things away from her like her car which he just did the other day. The boys are now lying to me about spending time with him to spare my feelings. I don't know what to do. I don't speak to him (court ordered) and he would be impossible anyway since this is what he wants but I constantly try to spend time with the kids and I'm constantly disappointed but know they are with him all the time. They constantly complain about things he does and discuss it with me and I just listen. Can you please help? I'm at my wits end... I'm about to move away so that I don't have to witness this anymore because my heart is broken... I love my kids more than anything and I don't want them to stop seeing him but I don't want them to be controlled any longer... What can I do??