Getting overly anxious about every little illness - does anyone else feel like this?

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I know this is silly, but I can't seem stop myself getting really, stupidly anxious over every little illness DD has. She's 11mo and we've had a run a illnesses for the past two months, nothing major - the tummy bug that went around, a cold, a bad cough, an ear infection, teething, those sort of things. Tonight she has a bit of a temperature and a little rash on her stomach. Now I know she's not that hot and if it is up, it's probably because she is teething (lots of dribbling and chewing). And the rash is a pin-prick heat-type rash that is probably from her nappy or jeans rubbing her stomach as she's crawling.

But I just get so wound up, I keep checking her (so I'm thinking that she's not sleeping well but DH has pointed out that I'm just disturbing her), I think she's breathing a bit too fast...

The thing is I know that she is fine. She's seen the GP a few times recently so I know her chest is clear, she's just finished antibiotics for the ear infection so she can't have any underlying problems. And there's no reason for me to think that she has any health problems. She doesn't - I know it's just the age where they catch all the bugs, all the other babies I know have had just as many illnesses. But I can't help thinking really stupid things like if she is really congested, she might struggle to breath and then, you know, now breathe

Is it just me? Does anyone else feel like this? I'm not an anxious person, I don't get wound up about other things. Someone tell me they worry a lot too...

Completely normal. I thought it would get easier with second child. Nope. Just as many visits to Out of Hours docs, just as many 'checking to see that they are still breathing' tip-toeing trips, just as many hours worrying in case it's something serious.

She will be fine.

well I don't, if anything I'm probably too far the other way, but you aren't alone. One of my friends must, I think, take her daughter's temp every day whether she seems ill or not and whenever I hear from her, she ALWAYS says the DD is a bit ill. I don't really know what the answer is, other than to just keep very firmly in mind what your DP has said, that over-fussing and hovering can be counter-productive. If you think she is congested, get some Karvol vapour, give a little calpol, so you feel you've done something, but the fact that you're posting suggests that you do actually have some perspective on this!

Hi, I thought I was alone worrying like that, but after I posted my topic on similar thing I realised I was not. I was worried to the point I was going to see GP to get some medicine. I felt like I was in a dip dark hole and couldn't pull out. About a week ago I saw a hypnotherapist - so far MUCH better. Now I see how silly I was to spend so much time in negativity worrying when I need to think how to have a great time with my DS. You are not alone!!!! Apparently it is normal but sometimes we need a little help to look at ourselves from the side and accept those worries and learn to live with them as they help us to be safe (that's how my friend describes them). I am a believer in past life, soul, karma so hypnotherapy helped me. Think what might help you. It's all in our brain, new mums are not as strong and often our brain can take over bring us lots of negative things especially when we are watching news or sad movies. I know for sure you can feel better just find something or somebody to help you a bit. Good luck hun, remember to enjoy you DD, they grow so fast.

My dd is 19 weeks and I worry a lot too - I think it's normal and just part of being a mum and trying to do your best. If its taking over normal life its time to get support but otherwise it's time to just put your feet up with a cuppa instead X

Thanks everyone, it's good to hear I'm not alone!

It's not taking over my life or anything, when she is well I don't worry about her - and fairylights, I'm also hoping that the fact I know I am overreacting is a 'good' sign!

However today it turns out that I was right to be worried as I ordered DH to take her to the doctors - he was adamant she was just a bit under the weather despite a temperature of about 39 - and it turns out her ear infection has returned with a vengeance Don't think that will make me worry any the less!

I think I find it so hard because they can't tell you they feel ill, obviously. And DD is such a happy, chipper little soul, she carries on regardless no matter how poorly she is so the only way you know she is ill is when her temperature suddenly shoots up!

I could have written your post Yo. My 12 month DD has had everything going the past couple of months (ear infection, coughs, colds, tummy bug). She's running a very high temperature again this today and clearly unwell but I felt a bit of a fraud taking her back to the doctors again. Don't know why as she was geniunely poorly.

I find it really worrying too, so it's good to hear others feel the same. DD just seems to fragile when she's ill and it's hard to know what to do for the best except worry!

Hope both our babies feel better soon :)