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would you feel put out about this?

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wannaBe1974 · 11/04/2006 10:12

We were invited to my mum’s for lunch on easter Sunday. My sister and her DH and DS have also been invited and my mum said she was going to have a bit of an easter egg hunt for the kids. Then this morning I had a phone call from my sister to tell me that her DS has chicken pocks. Didn’t really pay much attention really as most kids get it, she’s staying home with him as he obviously can’t go to nursery. Then a bit later I had a phone call from my mum saying that she assumed now that we wouldn’t be going to lunch on Sunday as we wouldn’t want our DS to be infected by DN. I just said that I guessed not then and thought no more of it. Then when I mentioned it to my DH he said that that wasn’t really on as we weren’t the ones with the sick child so why weren’t we still invited and my sister staying at home? I’d never even thought of it like that but he’s right. If my DS was sick I would automatically have said that I wouldn’t go round as I didn’t want to infect DN but in this case it’s our child who isn’t ill who’s expected to stay away. I’m just glad I hadn’t told DS yet that we were going to his Gran’s for lunch and that his cousin would be there, at least now I don’t have to explain why we can’t go. Am I wrong to feel put out about this?

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Carmenere · 11/04/2006 10:15

No you are not wrong but could you not simply ask your mum does she think it's fair or logical that your ds (who is well) has to miss out on Easter lunch?

Twiglett · 11/04/2006 10:18

Well personally I wanted my children to be exposed to cpox as often and as early as possible

how do you feel about your child getting c pox then? .. really the earlier the better

I think maybe your mother is trying to give your sister a break and her child something nice to look forward to

Miriam2 · 11/04/2006 10:20

Don't know how old your ds is but I would go anyway. He's going to get chicken pox at some point in his life (and it's horrible as an adult so best to get it over with!) and it doesn't seem fair he should miss out on a family day. He could catch it at nursery/school/on the bus etc...ring back and say you're going!!!

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pindy · 11/04/2006 10:26

I would go aswell - hopefully catch chickenpox, probably wont if you are trying!!! My dh caught it when he was 35 - not funny for him, but we couldn't help laughing at him as he looked ridiculous.

Ring your mum and say you would still like to come.

Good luck

LIZS · 11/04/2006 10:29

I'd feel the same, however DN is unlikely to be contagious by Sunday anyway. At least you know, SIL brought her dd along to a family party while coming out in spots without bothering to tell us...

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wannaBe1974 · 11/04/2006 10:31

tbh it wouldn't bother me hugely if DS catches chicken pocks as I too am of the thinking that the sooner he gets it the better. I'd even suggested that if they both had it then DN could come to mine during the day thus saving people the need to take time off work to look after him, and the kids could keep each other amused and wouldn't be climbing the walls out of frustration of not being able to go out. DH doesn't want DS to catch it though, but I can work on that. It was more the fact that it was us who were excluded when my DS is perfectly healthy that bothered me.

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LIZS · 11/04/2006 10:33

but they won't both have it at the same time .... 10days to 3 weeks incubation !

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wannaBe1974 · 11/04/2006 10:38

no that's true but they go to the same nursery, and albeit they are in different age groups they might have come into contact with each other anyway and it's therefore possible that DS might get it anyway.

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harpsichordcarrier · 11/04/2006 10:39

hmmm maybe your mum thought that dn can't go anywhere else but your ds could go anywhere he likes?
I would be a bit put out too, but I would also go probably!

anguathewerewolf · 11/04/2006 10:40

sorry, but its tuesday tooday, by easter sunday he wont be infectious anymore

bamboo · 11/04/2006 10:40

When DD had the pox she obviously had to stay off nursery, and I didn't feel I could go out and about as we would normally for fear of infecting unsuspecting parties, so was going a bit stir crazy. Perhaps that's how your sister feels and your mum is just trying to help - they could have explained it better if that's the case though.

Pinotmum · 11/04/2006 10:45

I'd be looking at it from the point of view that no-one is uninvited but I have the choice to go or not. If I choose not to go then my mum will understand. I wouldn't be put out particularly though the way your dh has interpretted it sounds unfair.

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