teenagers today!

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my son is 14 and has a girlfriend....he seems to throw his rights as a child in my face everytime i confront him on something he has ignored to do...."chores". or plain and simple "help".... its really quite irritating and it almost alwats ends in an argument...any advice from moms out there?

He's old enough to be able to negotiate a settlement. If he wants to do X then he has to do Y - that's how adults function in the world and if he wants to be treated as an adult then let him.

thx for the comment....thing is there is no compromise with him...there is only his way or huge fights

Then he has to learn if he can't behave like a young adult then he'll be treated like the child he is acting like - and stand your ground. You'll probably have a few weeks of $hit but he'll learn he has to man up and hopefully will tow the line

If he knows his rights he will know he is entitled to food, warmth, education, ect, which you need to provide, but it's not his right to have an xbox/playstation, have a lift to where ever, have you make his packed lunch rather than him.

Stop arguing, and know your rights as a parent - and his rights too and state them. I say this as the mother of a 13yo who Googles rights as a hobby and wants to be a lawyer.