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Holding onto poos

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looneytune · 10/04/2006 15:43

Ds (just turned 3) started potty training on Saturday and as expected, it's a mess Grin

What's worried me is him holding onto his his poos. It's quite normal for him to poo 3 times a day but since Saturday, we've had 1 malteser size in potty a few hours into it, a big poo in Sunday mornings pull up and the HUGEST poo I've ever seen, today, after a couple of hours of complaining he had tummy ache!!!!

He held it in as long as he could then (by choice) did it in his pants - what a mess!!! After chatting for a while, I finally found out why he wouldn't go to the potty (as this was not an accident!). He said his reason was he was worried about getting poo all over the carpet - I have told him not to worry about that as it would just go in the potty but he obviously thinks his bum hangs outside the potty!!! Grin

Is this normal? Any tips?

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Journey2 · 11/04/2006 09:40

This is completely normal, worrying as it can be!
My latest charge (2 and a half) loves using the toilet but not for number 2s, so much so, approaching a week we took him to Dr for an enema and even then he did his best to keep it in. He had bad tummy aches too leading up to it and was eating very little. (Other place you may find him letting go is in the bath or swim nappy if you go.)
Since a holiday, he has taken to doing it in his pants too. So, it was suggested he let us know when he wants a poo and we put a nappy on him.
We reassure him that it's ok, not to worry and keep up the praise when he does use the toilet for wees.
My son on the other hand is nearly 3, and no interest in being trained. I have delayed it for awhile now as we have a huge move (countries) and there is enough stress for him dealing with that before worrying about potty training.
If it's getting too stressful, bin the training for a month and start again. Boys generally take longer than girls.
Does he go to Nursery? Ask the staff for some tips as well.
Sorry not to offer you more advice.. but lots of praise and don't stress!

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looneytune · 11/04/2006 10:09

Thanks for that. Suppose i worried because the one mindee (I'm a childminder) i have trained was great and got it straight away. She is a girl though and I think they are better. I did think about getting him to poo in nappies I must say, as long as he has control which he does seem to!

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gingernutlover · 11/04/2006 10:23

if he is worried about it goping on the carpet would he feel better if you got a "splashmat". My daughter is only 7m BTW so no expereience just wondered if this might encourage him to go in a potty initially then he will realise it all goes in the potty and no need to worry.

probably if far more complex than what I think so sorry if that is a silly idea but like i said no exp, just a tought

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Flamesparrow · 11/04/2006 10:54

We had months with DD doing this. She would store hers up until she had a nighttime nappy on, and then poo.

I can't offer any decent advice though - the trigger for her to use the toilet was having a baby brother! From the time he was born, she announced "I a big girl now" and pooed on the potty!

Its frustrating, but I have learnt from experience that no amount of pressure or bribes seems to work - they will do it when they want to.

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