How to I convince her to wipe/take herself?

[Flamesparrow]

DD (2.10) has been dry during the day for a while, but she refuses to take herself to the toilet, and apart from a few enthusiastic days a couple of months ago, won't consider wiping herself.

She is capable of doing both - as long as I am in the bathroom with her, she needs no assistance (unless she's in tights) with anything other than the wiping, but will not go up alone. She will just stand and yell "wee wee" until I manage to finish what I was doing, rather than start her way up there alone, ready for me to join her to wipe. Its not like there is a problem with going to the bathroom alone... she's happy to if she thinks she can play with the taps !

I don't want to push too much - new baby, feeling rejected etc. I think its probably a case of knowing that this is the one thing that mummy has to give her undivided attention for (not that she isn't getting that anyway - DS sleeps most of the morning, so she gets oodles of time with just me then).

Sooo... do I start trying to encourage her to have more independence with it? Do I leave it until she's ready? You think you've got it sorted when they can wee and poo in the toilet - you forget that there is still another step left!!!

We had this withDS1. When u take her, sit outside the room where she can see u still and then after a few times move further away. When u are out of her eyeline still talk to her so she knows u r there.

Not sure about the wiping thing, i have an obsessive wiper!!! :S

fs, my dd1 is 3 and a half and has been doing this lately, i bought her these kandoo wipes and she loves using them on her own, feels very grown up

i didnt want to use them but i caved and im glad i did

my dd1 was pretty appalling about wiping til recently when she was 5.5. she's fairly lazy and unfussed about being clean.

dd2, better on these things, would wipe herself from about 3.5 or 4. again she really prefers the Kandoo wipes.

the Kandoo wipes really helped - but they are very bad for the drains apparently and block up many old systems.

both are still rubbish on washing hands properly. i have very slack scummy children. they have to be checked and forced to wash hands properly still, at 6 and 4.

Thankyou - I'll give the kando a go, and the gradually getting further away. No issue with the hand washing - if running water is involved then she's there

Ds has gone the grand total of 3 times without me telling him to, but apparently manages at nursery - I think he goes when his friend goes, rather than when he needs to IYSWIM.

He really wants to stay the night at MIL, and so I have told him that he can't go until he will take himself off for poos in the morning, rather than going in his pull up before we get to him.

I have made a shoe box bed with 10 finger puppets and for each one he gets a puppet - for each mistake, they all roll over and one falls out. When he gets to 10 he can stay the night at PIL.

Wow! I love the creativeness of that!!! Much better than my "you can have 3 smarties" .

Rainy day activity and a bribe in one....

Bob currently has 2 finger puppets. he is very happy and so am I, have not spent ages cleaning up sh*t today.