I have found mumsnet to be very helpful with things I don't feel I can ask in real life. Perhaps someone can help with this.
I think the answer may be 'it depends' on situation, on toy, on child etc
But as a general rule I wondered if anyone can help.
My 3 yo ds1 is generally very good. I think he plays well with other children and is great at sharing his toys when we have a friend round.
However, there will be occasions when he has a particular fav toy. Or a game he's set up when the other child wants the toy. In this situation I know that he will react badly- get upset- if forced to share. So I don't push it. I feel if he's forced to share something unfairly it's likely to make him more possessive and less good at sharing. If the other child gets upset I will try and ask him to share/ take turns. But if try can't play nicely I will put toy away rather than force him to let other child play with it. Normally I find the other child doesn't mind as there are plenty toys to distract them.
However I have been at other peoples houses when similar situation arises with us as guest. And the other mum will insist my son gets the toy and their child must learn to share. I feel awkward cos I think it's unfair on other child but other mum insists.
Just wondered if I should be doing this too regardless of how much it hurts my sons feelings? What do people think? If we are at someone elses house my ds is usually quite good if I say "it's ok let other boy play with that, we'll find something else' it's just when it's his own toys I don't think it fair to force them to share everything regardless?
But I dint want to get this wrong and be the mum/son combo who nobody wants their kids to play with.
Sorry for ramble. Tia