Pre-Teen angst

[Floey]

I am horrified that my 12 year old daughter told me last night that she has been self harming. I would love any ideas about what to do next. She tells me it was only twice and that it did not make her feel better about her worries but I am terrified it could start again any time she feels upset or stressed. Can anyone help me please?

You poor thing. It must be so upsetting for you both.
I'm not experienced in this (did self-harm in my late teens but not to any great extent), but first off I'd get her to check with the GP about any infections to the cuts: just to rule that out first.
She might want to talk about it or she might clam up; either way just letting her know that you're there for her, she can talk to you about whatever's worrying her if she wants to, and that you love her no matter what, will help. It certainly helped me when my Dad said it to me.
If it was only twice and she feels it didn't make her feel better, then she may never do it again. Some professionals dealing with long-term self-harmers get them to hold an ice cube every time they feel like self-harming: the cold gives them the shock release but doesn't harm them.