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Unsociable 18 month old DD

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SocialAnimal · 04/04/2006 19:29

My DD cries when other children approach her at the kindergarden or in social situations in general. She´s happy to play alongside other kids, just won´t tolerate them touching her. Is this common? It´s definitely worse when she´s tired but has been a problem for as long as I can remember. So far this hasn´t alienated her peers but I can see this will happen soon. What can I do to make things better?

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Socci · 04/04/2006 19:33

I would spend some time observing her and try to pin point what is triggering it.

Nikaleeona · 04/04/2006 19:44

Is it just children or adults she does it with? We had a little boy at the nursery i work at that was the same, he used to completely freak out whenever any children came near him, then all of a sudden he changed, now hes like all the others, chatting away and playing happily.

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SocialAnimal · 04/04/2006 20:03

Just children I think (she doesn´t have much contact with adults). Can it just be that she´s frightened of the rough and tumble of nursery life? She is by far the youngest there. That's what it looks like to me.

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Nikaleeona · 04/04/2006 20:14

I think it could be that she's scared. Is there anywhere she can go that is out of the way of the direct contact with the children to see if that makes any difference? The little boy at nursery was fine once seperated by a stair gate and was then just slowly introduced to the area with the other children again.

gigwig · 05/04/2006 15:22

My DS used to be a bit like this, not so much the touching but generally wanting to be by himself - at the childminders he used to go into the living room by himself and not in the playroom with the others. He's always been like this really ever since he was a baby.

Now he is 3 and I think just through getting older he has lost some of his apprenhension of others. At the childminders he now goes into the playroom with the others and he even has one particular friend.

So it may be cos she is so young now, see how she in a year or so.

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SocialAnimal · 05/04/2006 19:54

Thanks ladies, yes I think she is probably just a little young to be with the others and frightened of being pushed around..

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FrayedKnot · 05/04/2006 19:58

DS was like this at 18 months too. He had little social contact with other kids around that time because we were moving house to a new area and so stopped having friends & their children visit us, etc.

I started taking him to Tumble Tots and although he liked it, he wouldn;t go near any of the oterh children and if they came close to him, especially if they bumped in to him, he would scream the place down. It was almost embarassing, but I think it's quite common.

He gradually started getting better and recently started nursery (he's 2 now) and loves playing beside the other children, so my advice would be continue the contact with other children and she will no doubt grow out of it.

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