DD being cheeky and rude when friends around

[shebird]

DD(8) is usually fairly calm and sensible, model student etc. but whenever she has friends to play she totally changes and is loud, cheeky and rude. I understand there is an element of showing off in this and I not saying I don't want her to have fun but it has got o the point where I dread her having friends to play. I have observed her with her friends and see that she is the ringleader to any madness so i cant blame them. We have talked about it and she realises she has behaved badly but then does exactly the same next time. I was planning on having her birthday party at home this year but I'm just dreading her behaviour will just ruin everything. Any suggestions welcome:)

Send them home immediately. Tell her there wont be anymore friends around until she can behave. Give her another chance in a month, same again.... she'll soon catch on.

Oh - how far away is her party? I would tell her that before you even consider having a party for her anywhere she has to prove that she can behave & if you have a party & she misbehaves then they will all get sent home - party or no party.

Of course they get a bit silly when they have friends around - but rude & cheeky are not acceptable.

I have tried the ultimatum thing 'behave or they go home' and eventually things do calm down. As I said she is normally no trouble but the silliness just gets out of hand. I feel like horrible shouty mum whenever friends come around.

Her birthday is in 2 months and I'm having serious second thoughts after today's experience with just one for a play date!

Is it silliness or being cheeky & rude though?!

Silliness - like giggling, running around, shouting daft things at each other is par for the course and just bloody annoying.

Cheeky & rude is entirely different.

Which is it??

If it's properly cheeky & rude then warn her before they arrive. Tell her there will be no warnings, you will just send her friends home - then follow through, stop shouting.