Those of you who put newborns down to sleep at 7pm-ish...

[CharlieMouseWillDoIt]

How long do they sleep for? I've always thought that "sleeping through the night" for a newborn is 5 hours unbroken sleep, so if they go down at 7pm, that means them being awake again at midnight. And then what happens if/when they do wake up?

I'm asking out of genuine curiosity as my DD (who is now a strapping toddler) would never go to sleep that early in the evening. She would cluster feed during the evening and would eventually go to sleep at about 11.30-midnight. Even when she was a bit older (6 months or so), any sleep she had before about 9pm would turn out to be a 40 minute nap, then she'd wake up and be awake for another couple of hours. It has taken a long time and a lot of patience to get her to go to sleep (and stay asleep) in the early evening.

I guess this is where the phrase every baby is different comes in, but I do remember feeling a bit in awe of my friends whose babies went to sleep at 7pm and stayed asleep.

Mine have all stayed with me for all naps and until i go to bed until aroud 6-7 months. dc5 is 8 months now and just recently started having her nap in another downstairs room and goes up to her cot at around 8pm. She sleeps from 8-11 has a feed then has another feed at 4. After this feed she normally just falls asleep in our bed. She is breastfed.

I'm a first time mum and I'm terrible at it... My baby is 10 weeks. Been trying to get into some sort of nap/sleep schedule for the past few weeks and feel like a complete failure of a mum - it feels impossible! I know every baby is different but I just can't work it out. The ONLY thing I'm sure of is that she starts to get tired after only 30 minutes of wake time and she gets over tired and cranky sooo easily. I used to think she had colic then realised I wasn't responding to her tired cues.
So now I am. 30 mins after waking or when noticing her cues, the rigmarole begins - used to be slings but those don't work now. She needs rocked to sleep. She's a big baby (born 10lb) and my back is breaking rocking for hours. She sleeps reasonably well at night,waking twice to feed.
Sorry for the rant - my questions are about nap and bed time. Recently her morning nap isn't longer than 40 mins. She tends to have a 2 hour nap around lunch time after an insane crying session and frantic rocking/swaying. Then fights most the evening. She is calm in Bath around 5pm. Then she lies on me with constant. Boob access, cluster feeds. What am I to do at night time? Just now she's been asleep since 715. We decided to leave her sleeping in basket downstairs as usually we take her up to bed and the screaming starts again until she passes out exhausted. Is this terrible? Should she be having a "bed time"? We also co sleep.. Also because I'm a terrible mum and can't soothe her enough to sleep in cot. I'm hoping someone is going to say they've been there and that everything miraculously improves at 3 months I feel like every dsy is different, no pattern or prediction other than she is always cranky and never naps. How is she meant to have any fun/play when she's awake for 30 mins and 15 mins of that is feeding..
Jeeez what a rant, sorry!!!!

@Rhimarie you're not a bad mum and your baby is only 10 weeks. She's still tiny so don't worry she will sleep a lot through out the day.

There isn't much routine you can do.

I'm lucky my DS is 18 weeks old and is a very content baby but for whatever reason I don't really know why I always put him to nap in his rocker in the living room. I've now started to put him in naps in his crib and he naps for longer as there are less distributions. In time you will get into a little routine but you're not a bad mum

Our baby had (and still has) a breathing monitor clipped to his nappy and we have a video monitor. He has to be in a pitch black room with no noise to get to sleep (like me) so there’s no way on earth he would go to sleep downstairs. He sleeps 6.30-6.30 and has done since he was 4 months when we routined him.

I breastfed my daughter up to 6 months, and she used to slerp 7-7 with one feed at 3am (feeds only took 10mins) from about 4 months.

Since about 8 months she has slept 7-7, and sometimes longer if she is really tired.

Nearly 2 now and still sleeps the same

Im expecting my 1st in Marcg and its reactions like @Declutterbug's that terrify me. I just dont think its particularly helpful when you want to have an open discussion about an issue and you get screached at and told your not safe. In reality I think its a fairly even split on here about sleeping arrangements, and people have done whats best for them