Tell me what time your 11 year old goes to bed please

[Hennycluckington]

Ds11 normally gets in to bed for say 8.30-9 pm and reads then lights out at about 9.20-30pm on school nights. (later at weekends)

A quite a few of his friends are still texting him at 10-11pm (his phone is on silent by then) and they are watching Tv or on a xbox etc.
He goes to sleep fairly quickly and I wake him at 7.30am
He complains that his friends get to stay up and watch TV.
He is also not impressed he doesn't get to stay up later than his 8 year old sister, but I do turn his light out later.
So, I was just wondering what the norm is for your 11 year olds?

I feel after 9.30 it's our time to watch programmes to get time as a couple and relax before our bedtime which is quite early at the moment as I'm 6 months pregnant.

Similar to you, OP, but maybe lights out half hour later.

I am just snarling at shooing 13yo DS to bed now.

DD goes at 9pm

half an hour after her 8yo sister

she's older so gets treated as such -calling for friends, walking up to the shops etc, a slightly later bedtime is part of that

Our kids' bedtimes get later by 15 minutes each birthday. At 14 DS2 goes to bed at 9.30 so at 11 he was going to bed at 8.45. They have always had 30 minutes reading time after bedtime before lights out.

11 yr old here goes to bed at half 8 during the school week, 9pm at weekends, he is up before 7am most mornings. Most of his friends seem to stay up later but I am a firm believer in them needing a good nights sleep, and dh and I getting a bit of free time :). Btw the 6yr old goes at 7.45pm or so and the 13yr old at 9pm (later at weekends and hols)

Fuzzy mum- I am in awe of that level of organisation!

What happens if there's football on?

DS is very rarely asleep before 10, and usually gets up with no trouble by 7.30. If I have to wake him up, or even have to hurry him along in the morning, then he has to go earlier the next night.

I think he could do with more sleep, but even if he goes up early, he will read until late or lie there wide awake until what he considers bedtime, (10 o'clock), plus a bit extra on principle if I've made him go earlier.

I can't remember the last time he's been grumpy in the morning, so maybe he genuinely doesn't need as much sleep as some.

Upstairs at 8.00, lights out between 8.30 and 9.00; a bit later on Scout night or special occasions. A bit earlier if he's been exhibiting signs of over tiredness (ie stroppy!)

I think 9.30/10 is about right for most 11 year olds, but I'm from Ireland and IME, people tend to go to bed later over there. For example, I had never heard of any adults going to bed before 11 p.m., until I moved to the UK aged 18. DS (10) goes at 9 now, but lights out seem to be more like 9.30. However, he doesn't really like staying up much past 10.

I was rarely asleep before midnight at that age, even though I was still in primary. But then again, most of my family are night owls. We used to mock my sister for going to bed at 11 in her teens, because she was tired!

My nearly 12 year old, lights out by 8.30. Some nights it will be 9 if lots of homework and she needs some down time.