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BFG · 03/01/2004 23:25

Me and DH have been bickering over everything the last week, and today, our wedding anniversary it all came to a head. My DD5 walked in to the middle of the kitchen, when the row was at a crescendo, with a letter saying "you are hurting my feelings stop it both of you" then ran up to her room and starting crying.

We havent rowed like this for years and some bad things were said. I feel bad because I am worried how this will effect my dd. Do they bottle feelings up at this age? After things had calmed down i explained that all mummys and daddys row sometimes and that its a normal part of life. I even got one of her barbie and ken dolls and pretended they were having a row which made her laugh. I am unconfrontational and hate rowing. The problem that we rowed about has been resolved I think, but I also think its a touch of Cabin Fever as we have all been in this house for the last two weeks.
What can I do or say to make my DD feel ok about this awful slanging match me and DH had.

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CountessDracula · 03/01/2004 23:41

Well I guess you could just say that grown ups are like children and have arguments sometimes, but that like children they make up too?

maryz · 03/01/2004 23:43

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BFG · 03/01/2004 23:57

thanks maryz, youre right, by letting dd see us make up and sort things out is the most positive thing to do. My parents used to row only occasionaly and it used to really upset me. Thanks again.

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Angeliz · 03/01/2004 23:57

i agree with maryz, if she see's that adults can argue and then make up then it's not a bad thing in the long run! It is awful though isn't it? Dp, dd and i went to a wedding a few months back and stayed at the Hotel. Dp and i hardly ever row but had a blazing row infront of dd the next morning in the hotel room. (she's 2.10). She was sort of walking round in circles a bit lost!
It played on my mind for ages and i hope it's a memory she'll forget! Anyway, i'm sure your dd will be fine and i hope you and dp are too!

BFG · 04/01/2004 00:00

Angeliz thats exactly what i worry about - DD remembering the row and the bad things that were said. Me and DH are ok now thanks and dd ok too.

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Angeliz · 04/01/2004 00:03

BFG, the thing i did to re-assure myself was to try and remember my parents rowing when i was tiny! I can't (i remember when i was 10/11), and i'm pretty sure they must have done!
Your dd sounds as though she is more than able to express herself should you upset her in future

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