new mum - struggling to adapt

[milli2512]

DS1 was born by emcs 11 days ago and whilst I love him with all my heart I can't help feeling like I'm mourning the loss of the old me. I just feel so tied to this little person, am struggling to get to grips with BF and also not being able to drive or really get out properly on my own due to c-section. DH has been great, dreading his return to work on Monday. I miss the me who could just get up and go - I guess that's normal?? Not really after advice just need to get out how I feel and hear I'm not a cow for feeling like this. Just have these melancholy moments of feeling sorry for myself, but I should be on cloud nine shouldn't I?

I was an emc too 2yrs ago. Looking back I think I was in shock at how different having a baby was to what I expected in those first 2 wks.

This turned round very slowly week by week. I started to realise 4wks after I didn't feel as bad as I had the previous week. I kept a short diary too. I felt physically ''me" at about 12wks. I felt emotionally nearer me at 16wks.

As ur strength returns and it's easier to move go for walks outside. It really helps and bubba sleeps... Gave me space.

It does get better. I promise. Go on the bf boards too, we all felt similar.....