teenage sons 18the party... HELP ! ! ! !

[maltesers]

Have you any helpful tips for coping with my sons 18th birthday party next Monday ? He is having it at home and is using only the playroom/computer room and the kitchen plus the garden (poor neighboors). He has asked us to be out from 7-12 but have said till 11 is late enough. JUSR HOPE THEY ARE NOT ALL DRUNK AND SICK.

They will be .

I s'pose the obvious is remove all valuable items. And how is the party going to be contained in the two rooms? Do you have locks on other doors?

I am seriously asking because if i remember 18th parties i went to, "rules" about which rooms were to be used just didn't get listened to.

Oh yes....

Our neighbours let their daughter have a 17th party which went very pear shaped and involved the SOCCO arriving to take evidence at 3 am. We got to bed at 4 am!

Do not make invites that can be photcopied to all and sundry.....

Have a responsible adult on the premises to stop trouble before it starts (our neighbours went away for the weekend)

Be especially vigilant at pub chucking out time for gatecrashers.

Vacate the garden at midnight and turn music down out of conasideration for neighbours.

Hide away valuable incuding spare keys

If I htink of any more I'll let you know.

OMG, OMG, sounds like from your advice mumsnet that all hell is going to break lose.. Think i will have 999 in my hand and my asp baton at the ready, HELP !

aCTUALLY I AM MORE WORRIED BOUT MY HOT HEADED DP WHO IS VERY FIERY. Lets hope the teenagers dont get a bop on the nose for damaging anything.. Will try and send him away for the night and help son clear up before he gets back..

Good idea.

Our poor neighbours daughter who is very nice. It was all fine till pubs kicked out, looked very sociable. They had asked us to keep an eye on them as they were away.

Once 11 came though she had about 50 gatecrashers..... It turned nasty and soemone was assaulted. Blood on weapon (their Dyson!) hence the socco. 4 police vans came to clear the street/house.... ( they linked arms and marched the crowd up the road) She was in tears. Several bits and pieces were broken including our fence, a dining room chair and the stairs carpet.....

It was the talk of the orad for ages

maltesers whoa make sure everything is nailed down

and cover every item in plastic to stop the puke stains
LOL

take the carpet up?

water down the beer?

and supply plenty of condoms
make sure your bedroom is locked as it could be used for fun and games iykwim

think american pie

signpost the toilet

I was thinking - you could train your son in advance on how to deal with stains . E.g what to do if red wine gets spilt on your cream carpet, what to do if your sofas get beer poured over them etc.

hire some bouncers or hire out th elocal village hall , my house is tiny so my ds wont be having a party ,lucky me

Iam battling with my DS who's 16 about 10pm curfew, I would suggest maybe a village hall, big men friends to be bouncers and a strict handbag/bag search for booze/drugs. I think 11.30ish is fine for curfew, but as they're 18 you're not responsible for them, their parents are.I think home is asking for trouble.....they will have sex etc and it's your house. It's alsop scary when gatecrashers arrive, they can be older and more intimidating and not happy to be told to go away. School/college rivalry exists and that's watchable too.

well some astounding advice mumsnet. Really worried now. Think he and his friends are a nice enough lot. Well if they get too drunk and rowdy will come down on them hard. He will have to pay for the damage if any mate breaks something. Will let you know next week how it went. GOD SAVE OUR SOULS !!

Where I live there is a policy now with the local police stations that if you are having an 18th party you let them know in advance and you can fill out a form advising of details how many coming etc. that way they are on alert that there is a party and if they get a call may respond quicker and also some do the occasional drive by to scope things out and make sure there are no problems. Just a thought...

well...the party is t'mrow night and i am bit nervous. Right now my older ds is stripping out our playroom/computer room till its bare with great gusto !! whilst little 5 yr old bashes on piano. Sounds like wine, beer and spirits are on their way. Have bought lots of pizzas to sober them up..HELP !

Kerry 74 where od you live. I live near the new forest/southampton and salisbury (Wilts) Think you police policy is a great idea. Might just enquire bout that one. Just hope it doesnt get out of hand !

Good advice here. I'm sure your ds and his friends are lovely, but it's the gatecrashers when the pub shuts who might cause trouble. I went to an 18th birthday party years ago which was really well arranged with the invitations, someone on the door etc. But about 11.30 a load of pissed blokes turned up and someone at the party was stabbed with a bottle and died.

Sorry, not wanting to freak you out or anything, but be aware of the security angle. Good luck!

OMG Ponygirl my eyes are like saucers....wide. not that i am naive or anything but yes..er...thanks for that one. Chuckle or gasp ?

Thats it ! ! i am informing the local police but will not tell my ds about it. Just pray my hot headed fiery dp not not get shitty with any one and literally throw them out.

Oh dear, I had a teenage party at my parents house and damages included a broken toaster, fence and a blocked overflowing toilet - also vomit in the garden 5 years later my brother had one and the police were involved as a car was damaged. IIRC we both had gatecrashers.

Have fun

Will let you allknow what happened on tuesday. thanks for the scary input , some funny some not so funny ! but great to read it.

good luck maltesers, look forward to your posting on tuesday