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Why do Men always forget?

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 11:05

I need to leave for work at 1130am,dp will be looking after ds.
Well,dp is not here,he went out last night,stayed at friends and not back yet.
So,we all know what is going to happen dont we!!!!
Dp wont be back in time and I will miss important meeting with boss and client.Dp will stroll in the house at some point,I will scream,shout,swear and want a fag(but i wont have one) He will say sorry I wont do it again but he will!!!!

When will he ever remember?!

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 21:38

yeaman-EXACTLY! you are spot on there.RESPONSIBILITY i dont think he can understand,now here is the big laugh,he may be a student but he is 38!!!!!!!!!! doesnt have any part time job but your right about the dope.

Thanks for your post-I dont think he would forgive me if behaved the same

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crazydazy · 29/03/2006 21:44

Ohmigod Notasheep my question was going to be how old is he? From your description of him he sounded like he was under 25!!! 38 I don't think this man is ever going to love anyone as much as himself.

How old are you if you don't mind me asking?

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 21:48

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 21:49

A very youthful 42 in Doc Martens still!

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yeamam · 29/03/2006 21:52

Did he used to work then? I am 28 but I had a job for 9 yrs and had 2 kids, then the place I worked in closed down so I decided to educate myself to a higher degree and get another job

So, you pay the mortgage/rent etc.. is his course full on then so that he can't get a part time job? Never mind, the 2nd semester will soon be over and he has a whole summer to look for a part time job :)

moondog · 29/03/2006 21:54

Did he tell you he would be gone all night NAS??

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 21:58

He had an Accident-his right arm isnt very good now,so he is re training,in FINAL year thank goodness.Degree has taken 4 years(Computer Science and Artificial Intelligence) and

I have always paid Mortgage/Rent.

Some of my friends have suggested dp is taking me for a ride,behaving like he is living back at home.

My sister said he needs a HUGE MORTGAGE to pay then his behaviour will change!

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moondog · 29/03/2006 22:00

Could make an arsy comment about him lacking in the real intelligence dept. but wont.....

So,assuming that once he finishes,it's payback time (ie you get to sit back a little)?

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:01

moondog-yes he did,the issue isnt so much him staying out all night,we agree to that(and i actually get a decent night sleep then with bed to myself)
Its all the bloody wandering in and out like he is living alone!

He was due back around 9am(his mates were all off to work)

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moondog · 29/03/2006 22:02

Fair enough then.
Just checking.....

So,re question about him pulling his weight once degree done?
(I am assuming you are somewhere like Aber right?)

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:06

I am on All estate agents sites every night looking for a fantastic house that dp will buy.

The reality is that its very much role reversal here and it doesnt work thats for sure.
Dp hasnt a bean,4 times salary might be able to rent a garage and thats about it!

Where as i can look after myself,dd and ds without him

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moondog · 29/03/2006 22:08

Hmmm,this seems to be a common theme now doesn't it?
Women realising that actually they can manage just fine without the bloke.
(Is he the children's father?)

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:12

Yes,he is father of both children

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:17

Need to make big decisions to be honest when he finishes University.
This thread i could start every week with the way he is.........

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yeamam · 29/03/2006 22:19

Nah, I couldn't manage without mine

who'd clean the windows and cut the grass?

so NAS, at least if he is in his final year then things will be getting back on an even keel. With that degree is he guaranteed a job when he graduates? It seems quite specialised so sounds good :)

Hope Relate can sort it out, or at least help you to sort him out!!

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:22

He COULD get a fantastic job and earn a decent salary.
Looking forward to going to Relate(alone)

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kleist · 29/03/2006 22:26

Notasheep, hi!

Well, I know it's been said here already, but ... I sometimes think men are almost allergic to responsibility. Or blind. Or rebelling in a most pathetic way.

Sometimes I think back to how independent and self-sufficient I used to be and what an enormous change I've undergone since dd was born. I would never have believed that I could be as 'responsible' as I am. Whereas in comparison dp's changed his 'ways' very little. He just reaps the benefits of having a well-cared for little girl without having to sacrifice anything much at all.

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:33

Good evening!

I just get so upset by the whole thing and are at my wits end.Dont think for one moment that he will change,but i really think he has too otherwise......

And the way dp brags about dd and ds like dp has much to do with it!

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:35

Dont know if you got me on a post when dp was in shed with joint and supposedly looking after ds!

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yeamam · 29/03/2006 22:36

moondog · 29/03/2006 22:37

Bloody students eh??

jmg1 · 29/03/2006 22:40

Is this a bad joke, do women really stay with men like this?

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notasheep · 29/03/2006 22:47

Looks like it!

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yeamam · 29/03/2006 22:50

No, I'm sure it's not a joke. Don't make her feel worse than she already does, he might have some other qualities that we don't know about

NAS, what happens if you go to relate alone?

kleist · 29/03/2006 22:52

I don't think they're 'bad men' to be honest. I just think they've got a problem with responsibility. Not that that's an excuse. It's crap behaviour. And totally relies on their partners being prepared to take the weight of responsibility from them.

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