My children are just never bloody happy

[Mosman]

I am so so sad about this all I ever wanted was a family and now it's just not how I pictured life would be at all.
The first 5 years were crazy but good. I was at home with three under 4 for a while and super mum with lots of hobbies, great social life, children doing well at school.
It just seems to have gone down hill from there.
I went back to college when the youngest was three and then onto work. Within a year of me starting work DH was made redundant and he's not really got back up to speed in over 4 years, worked for six months of that time and just had set back after set back.
This is definitely affecting me and the children not to mention his confidence.
I try to give them the world, they go to a nice school, live in a nice house, we spend lots of time with them at the weekend at the park going for nice walks etc. the truth is though they treat us like shit, answer back, fight amongst themselves and I mean fight, three girls screaming and punching is not good to watch and horrendous when they do it in the supermarket as they did yesterday.
I'm at my wits end with it all
Anyone else come through this stage and resumed a normal life ? I'm so worried this will split DH and I up which will hardly make them any happier.

Hello, do you think it is the move that has tipped them over the edge? My girls are definitely emotionally scarred by moving here. I think it makes their world quite small. Their friends all have extended family picking them up from school or taking them swimming at the weekends. We only have the four of us. Perhaps they are sick of the sight of each other!

I tell mine that they are spoiling their lives by squabbling with each other as they have a nicer time when they do get on.

I wouldn't be taking them anywhere if they treat you that badly. Could you have a family meeting and tell them it has to stop?

I don't know they were horrors at times before we got here, with all the added stress of the overseas move I think has just tipped me over the edge in terms of coping DH is definitely feeling it.

Every weekend is dedicated to them, sometimes it willing participated in, other times you'd think they were off to the dentists for root canal rather than a trip to the beach or park.
I think you're right about them being sick of the sight of each other and winding each other up though and the cycle needs to be broken. It's been a tough 6 months so I've not wanted to come down too hard on them us they've had DH's mother sticking her oar in too. It feels like I was the only one with any patience with them so I'm trying to over compensate I guess in the little time I am there. It's exhausting.

Don't do ot then. Go to Bunnings this weekend for some linseed oil and then paint the outdoor furniture. Or similar.

You could try and spend some one on one time with each one. Take them out of school even.