What is it genuinely like having three children?

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We are undecided, but veering towards going for it.

I just wondered what are the best and worst bits of having 3?

Thanks all for posting, both the good bits and the bad bits, thank you for taking the time.
There aren't any surprises tbh, it's coping with the daily grind that is my biggest fear.
However, after over a year of 'shall we, shan't we', we have decided we are going to go for it and ttc. We can't get the thought out of our heads and really feels like there is someone missing at the moment. I've always wanted 3, DH always wanted 2 or 3 and I'm such a worrier that I think it's that that is making me doubt our intention.
I'm so excited that we've come to a decision though and can't wait to finally feel 'that's it, we're done now'. Roll on the mayhem!!

"It is fucking horrendous. I love DC3 but would never have done it willingly and wish it had never happened."

I am sure there are many who think like this on MN but would not dare to be as bold as you, UnnamedFemale.

And whoever up thread had said that you never regret the children you do have, just the ones you don't is talking utter mince! You cannot miss what you've never had, IMO.

OP, do bear in mind you run the risk of having more than you bargain for (twins, for example!)

I only have 2. I was talking to a lady that had 3 boys the other day. they all play junior footy as my two do.

She was sad because she takes one to his match, her DH takes one to his match. But then there is DS3 with nobody to take him.

You need more arms when you have more than two, I'd imagine. Better still if you could split yourself into three some days to do something with each of them. It must be tough! I find two is more than enough especially when you look far into the future and they both want to go to different activities after school, or at weekends. You'd be run of your feet just with the two DC, never mind what it must be like doing that for three DC!

That's such a shame, Sparkling. I would imagine those parents probably didn't look into the long term implications of having 3DC. Most people just go with their heart and don't bother thinking of the logistics of it all later on when each of them are grown up.

I think that's it lovechoc. At some point there will be three male teenagers in the house with all their requirements and big stinky trainers. I expect she hoped not all 3 would want to play football too.

You say bold, I say pissed . It's true though. I am struggling with three at the moment but I suspect that is my weakness and not the fact there are three of them.

Hope things get easier for you Unnamed :) I've had my struggles and I've only got two! Hats off to you

Honestly, I think if you want another dc you don't care about any logistics etc in the end. Maybe the dcs have to compromise more and don't always get what they want, but that's not always a bad thing and doesn't ruin their life!

Ok, I admit, I have days when I feel overwhelmed and I feel I was being a bit naive and didn't think the whole thing through. But that's hardly ever. Mostly it's just great fun and a bit chaotic, in a good way. My dcs will often all have friends over and we'll have up to 10 kids in the house sometimes but when you already have 3 a few more is no big deal! They are less dependent on me for entertainment I think, because they have each other.

The first time I went out on my own with 3 small dcs I felt like I was dripping with children. I kept counting them to make sure they were all there, even though one was a newborn in a carseat and not likely to go anywhere. Within a week of this I was completely used to it, and the same goes for the 5 of everything - meals, drinks etc. The only thing which is really expensive is plane tickets but that's because we live overseas so coming home to visit is very expensive. It also means I've had to fly alone with them a lot but most of it is attitude - they have been "trained" to stay close to me in airports and sleep on planes....

Good Luck TTC!

Oh gawd, don't print any more 'reality' posts, now we're going for it

Why did I open this thread...?

I deliberated about having a third for 12 months and then decided to go for it. I got pg quite easily and now aged 38 I am expecting DC3 in November, ds1 is 5 and ds2 is 3.

Strangely, since last week I have been experiencing major panic mode, everything is worrying me now, both rational and totally irrational things...I really hope it passes before baby arrives...

what did you decif op? am deliberating about to go for no 3 or not?

Hey OP how did it all turn out ? X