Failing with 2 year old

[AlanMoore]

She is delightful, clever, funny, behaves beautifully at nursery etc., but she has no respect for me. She ran off from me earlier in changing room at the baths, wouldn't even turn round never mind stop and nearly ended up in pool. She did not get to choose any sweeties as a sanction, she understood.

Just now she climbed up to touch things she knows she is not to, ignored being told no so was put straight in time out. As soon as she got out she went to do it again :( I ended up shouting at her.

Nothing seems to work. I am afraid something bad will happen to her and it will be my fault.

[lifesobeautiful]

PS - she doesn't sound unhappy at all - as a previous poster said. If that's unhappy - then every toddler I know is miserable!

[DancingInTheMoonlight]

What sort if things do you do with her? My d went through a phase for 6 months when he was tarring, pushing boundaries etc. i found the only thing that helped was to keep him really busy during the day (sometimes 2 toddler groups or a long walk in the woods) and this did seem to release some off his energy. When he did strop i said i could see he was upset/sad/angry and if he wanted to talk about it wee could when he calmed down until then just told him i wasnt talking to him and would ignite him and do something else i knew he liked and would distract him.

I don't think there's a magic cure unfortunately, mor a case of riding it out and being consistent

[AlanMoore]

Thank you

She is better when she's busy/exercised, we go dancing, swimming, soft play, park, walk to shops etc. and draw, bake, read stories, make dens, sing, snuggle up with cbeebies, normal toddler stuff! We've not been out much since Xmas as we've been taking it in turns to be ill so that won't be helping. Kept her busy today, no "episode" and only 45m til bedtime so fingers crossed!

We are going to try and fill the days more, like nursery, less chill-out aka wind-up time!