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What else can I do to cheer her up?

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Radley · 20/03/2006 16:06

Went to pick dd2 up today and as soon as she saw me she burst into tears and was very very teary all the way home, she said she didn't want to go to gymnastics but stay home with me, which is really unlike her. I tried talking to her on the way home and it seems like a culmination of 3 things,

a, she asked her teacher to fasten her coat as its freezing, its a double zipper and even we struggle sometimes, and the teacher ignored her and told her to go back to her place.

b, she was the only girl on a table full of boys today who were being daft and saying daft things, she didn't eat all her dinner and said that dinner lady kept telling her to hurry up.

c, last night she had a dream, she hasn't said much, but it was something along the lines of me giving her something to remember me by and then dying Shock

I don't where that has come from, she woke at 4.30 and went to the loo, dh asked her what was wrong and went to see but she insisted nothing, it was only when he went back in at 6am that she admitted it was a nasty dream.

All I'm doing at the minute is giving her lots of kisses and cuddles etc, but don't know what else to do for her, she still looks so sad and she is painting with her sister in the kitchen.

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Feistybird · 20/03/2006 16:10

Ah bless her!!

How old is she?

beansprout · 20/03/2006 16:11

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mumatuks · 20/03/2006 16:11

Aww, let her have a evening off Gym if she doesn't want to go. You could do something nice together like do her hair and let her do yours!! Or do some drawing.

As for the dinner lady, I remember always ending up on a table full of older boys, it was scary and I used to hate lunch times. Sad My Dad wrote a letter and it never happened again, infact the dinner ladies stopped directing us to a table and let us chose where we sat. We are going back to 198something!

Poor DD, I hope she's back to herself soon.

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Enid · 20/03/2006 16:11

your girls sound absolutely knackered radley

wehn do they finish school/nursery?

muma3 · 20/03/2006 16:12

i have the same sort of problems with my dd1 she is 8y but she is like this permantly. all i find that i can do is just say that she can come and talk whenever she feels the need no matter what i am doing and that she is very special beautiful etc and make her laugh when i feel the timing is right. she will come around and feel better soon. give her time and she might want to talk ?
how old is she? have you spoke to the teacher so your daughter knows that this wont at school happen again?
reassuring her that you arent going to die is a tough one but maybe she is feeling a bit low just recent and that could be why she is having nightmares?
she will talk when she wants to and i find that i cant force her as she clams up ?
HTH and hope she feels better soon Grin
(((((((((((hugs))))))))))

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Radley · 20/03/2006 16:12

She is 6, 7 in may

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sandyballs · 20/03/2006 16:14

My two DDs are a bit like this at the moment - the slightest thing seems like the end of the world to them. I've put it down to the fact that its almost the end of term and they are feeling a bit knackered.

DD1 told me she was frightened of assembly because it was too loud.

Bless her. Hope she cheers up.

Feistybird · 20/03/2006 16:16

Can you address the issues?

Can you get her a coat that she can fasten herself?

Can you talk to her about how she might avoid being on a table of boys - sticking with a friend maybe?

Can you give her some stats about how long you're likely to live (i.e. age of your parents - assuming that will be a positive thing...)

Enid · 20/03/2006 16:17

deffo no gym

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Radley · 20/03/2006 16:18

I would never force her to talk, but she is wanting to talk.

Enid, she has been off school this week with an eye infection and a bad cough, today was her first day back. They break up from school on the 7th April, she is going on her first 4day holiday with school at the end of march.

Dinner times really annoy me at her school, they always seem to be rushed and she was, at one point, forever coming home saying that people were touching her food all the time etc or making fun of what she is eating, (they all eat cheese strings, she eats chunks of cheese and she loves bagels with ham and cucumber which other kids find weird), there NEVER seems to be any supervision whatsoever.

If she is sat with them tomorrow I will see her teacher straight away, I don't want to be unhappy.

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Radley · 20/03/2006 16:22

They are good comments feisty.

1, If things carry on at school I will go and discuss them and try and get it sorted.

2, She has got a coat she can fasten herself, but, this is a walking coat, which we wanted her to get used to as she is going away with the school at the end of march.

3, Unfortunately, she cannot avoid sitting with the boys, she has to sit where the dinnerlady tells her, she is not allowed to stick by a friend etc.

4,Mum died when she was 45 and dad when he was 67, I will sit down and go through this with her but when dd2 (4) is not in earshot.

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sandyballs · 20/03/2006 16:25

This sounds so familiar - my two hate lunch time. I think it is quite traumatic for some kids - mine get teased for having brown bread (can't believe they are the only ones). They are also not allowed to sit next to each other at lunch which upsets them (they are twins) - it could be that they mess about but I do need to find out really.

But I do think all this gets worse at the end of term - tiredness.

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