Cuddling- can you give too much

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I am always cuddling ds2, he is 5 months,cant help it, I was told that this can make the child to clingy, do you agree or disagree?

I always cuddling my ds too (also 5 months)
Well... when i say always I don't mean constantly, he has time on his own in his play gym etc but he does get lots of cuddles and get carried around quite a bit too.

I would like to think it makes him feel happy,secure and loved rather than clingy, but to be honest i have no idea.

Who told you that. It sounds like something my mum would say.

I disagree. If a child knows you are there for them, they are reassured and less clingy. IMO!! :)
'if you pick him up when he cries you make a rod for your own back!' mother qoute!!

I don't agree at all - I find my kids are more clingy when I don't have time to give them a nice cuddle, iyswim.

I think if, when your kid is bigger, and able to crawl, if you don't let them go crawl and insist on always holding them, that might cause a problem. But at 5 months? Cuddle them all you want!

Don't you think that if you are seized by this overwhelming need to cuddle him then that is mother nature's way of making us do an important thing for our babies development?

I carried ds in a sling for 14 month so was always cuddling him. At 20 months he went to nursery and has absolutely never cried or clung to me.

Pushing your baby away before they are ready will be more likely to make your baby clingy. Have you ever had a boyfriend who treated you like crap? Women tend to bend over backwards to get some attention for these men - it's the same thing.

My friends HV claimed that babies should not be picked up and cuddled all the time as it can encourage them to become too clingy. I think she is of the old school iykwim.

no. enjoy it. hes a baby. we push our kids far too much to separate from us, far too early, imo.

i read somewhere, we think fruit is spoilt if if is bruised and left to rot. so how come we see our kids as spoilt if we give them too much attention?

they dont want so many cuddles as they get older, so make the most of it.
Would you prefer DH to cuddle you or ignore you?

disagree totally .. cuddle them as much as you want and they want and you both need

security and love does not make a clingy child

a clingy child is made when you don't step away for a moment when they fall and encourage them to get up themselves and brush it off .. when you rush to sort out every minor problem without trying to let them first work it out for themselves

i cuddled my only ds in i suspect the same way as you do yours and still do...he's shy,clingy and wary of new people etc...i thinks its just his way.

yummy cuddles with a five month old little squidge..you lucky things!

i used to cuddle my ds, now 11yrs, all the time when he was baby up to bout 6,7 years old then he didnt want as much cuddles. my sis commented once that she found it strange how we were so touchy feely which i found offensive. he doesnt want as many cuddles now, but still likes to watch tv entwined round me and i love it

7up-thats great my ds &dd 10 and 11 still love there cuddles. I think that showing affection is not wrong at all.

No.

How can you cuddle a baby or young child too much? It's impossible. Babies are made to be cuddled.

My kids are very clingy & I always think it's because I don't cuddle them enough.

Cuddles are very important and they are never too old. My 8 yr old son and I always snuggle up together to watch tv in the evening and my oldest two, the one I lost who was 20 and my oldest who is 25 never arrived or left the house without giving me a quick hug. We never had a phone call that did not end with "love you mum" even in front of their mates!! I think it makes them more affectionate with both their partners and their own children. My little boy often says to me "imagine the poor children without a mummy and daddy who can't have a cuddle"

My ds is 11 and still cuddles both of us Kisses us before he goes to school still and before bed I love it and will be gutted if it stops