how do you discipline/deal your toddler when they hit out?

[Littleraysofsunshine]

my 22m old hit her 15wk old sister today, not hard, but shocked poor dd2. whimpered for all of 10 seconds but i just shouted at her which made her cry :s

I just reacted too fast with the wrong thing, :(

I said you do not hit DD2, it is not kind, we be gentle (but in a high angry tone)

I dont want her to fear me, i just want her to know that when i mean it, i mean it and its not a joke.

like when she continuously climbs on the tv cabinet (nearly falling off)

shes usually good as gold but the past few days shes got the devil in her :/

and to point out she was majorly over-tired and fell asleep at 1
:15

Take a deep breath, come down to her level, look into her eyes and calmly explain why it is wrong to hit someone.

Tell her if she does it again she goes on the naughty step and have to stay there till you get her off (could be bottom step of the stairs) and at her age she should be there for almost 2 minutes (each year is one minute). You then take her off and let her apologise to you and her sister if she has hurt her sister and them big cuddle.

Alternatively, reward chart with stars for each part of the day she gets through without being naughty. I prefer this approach as it rewards good behaviour and ignores bad behaviour, but this is more difficult if you have to deal with hitting/biting etc. hence first approach might be more appropriate in your situation.

Both can also help with other issues, like climbing on TV cabinet (sounds very dangerous BTW).

Personally at almost 2 I don't think sticker charts work.

Children at that age need a direct consequence to an action.

Again I personally, at that age, would not use naughty step but if she has hit
you give a firm NO hitting then walk away.

By walking away you are ignoring her (whilst telling her it's wrong). Ignoring can be so powerful.

If hitting baby say No hitting and move DD1 away.

Remember use a low toned voice which is different from shouting IYSWIM for discipline. Use a higher pitched voice when you are pleased.

If you don't way her climbing on the cabinet just say NO and remove her. Distract her away from it with a game/song/toy.

Is she ok and not upset about new baby?
Congrats by the way on new baby.

In agree she's prob a bit young for sticker charts, just a firm no. I did get told by a friend once that it's important not to react more strongly to this than you would any other type of bad behaviour, even though to us its far worse to hit the tiny baby than throw a toy across the room or whatever, but at this age any undesirable behaviour should be treated the same

also make a huuuuuge fuss of the injured party, whether it's a baby or a fellow toddler at a group

She adores her, she never does anything in a spiteful way she just doesn't realise that dd2 isn't as playful yet I don't think, but today i told her no to something and she walked in the frony room and ive heard boing boing and saw her slap her head. So i just think she was majorly over tired and didnt know how to express it? but I want her to know its not acceptable.

Im finding it hard to keep the low calm tone especially having to repeat over and over :s