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DS been at nursery ages only just started crying - normal?

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TyrannoWearsGoldKnickers · 07/09/2012 14:02

DS has been going to his nursery since last December when he was ten months. He does two afternoons a week which works out to about four hours at a time.

We did the settling in sessions but they were unecessary because he wasn't the slightest bit bothered about us leaving him. He never cried, just waved at us and toddled off.

For the past couple of weeks when we get there DS, who is now nearly 18mo, has gotten clingy and tearful when I need to leave. It's really upsetting. He's had the same key worker all this time who he adores but he didn't even want to go to her today. She took him out into the garden so I snuck around the back and I could see that within a minute of me leaving he was sat quite happily with a friend while she read them a story.

He's only recently started to be clingy at all (I'm sorry I keep using that word, I don't like it but don't know how else to describe it) - like he'll fuss to be picked up when we're in the house and wants to be carried far more than he used to, or he won't go to his dad or to me (depending on who has him at the time).

Have we done something wrong? I hesitate to believe there's anything wrong at nursery, he seems very happy when we go to pick him up and as he's being funny at home too I wonder if it's something I'm doing. Or is it perfectly normal for him at this age?

Sorry for mammoth post. Just feeling a bit Confused Sad

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pippinsmum · 08/09/2012 20:02

They usually go through a phase of being clingy at 18 months. You are doing nothing wrong. My ds 20 mths has just stopped and it back to his happy self.

Just give lots of cuddles and reassurance.

I bet he stops crying as soon as you have left nursery and begins playing. I would say give positive vibes that nursery is a nice place dont act too concerned when he clings to you and pass him to his favourite member of staff, say you will be back soon and go. The longer you stay and make a fuss of the crying/clingyness the more you will give the feeling there is something to be upset/worried about.

This phase will pass soon enough.

I have been a nursery nurse for 17 years and seen this many times before, he will be fine once you have gone

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