anyone had/having a baby in late thirties after a LONG break??

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Hi I am seriously thinking of having another baby, I am 37 in Jan and my dd is almost 9. I never wanted another for years but the last couple of years I've got more and more broody. I've even been dreaming about it and notice EVERY pregnant woman in the world lol. My dd really wants a sibling too.
However, my dh is not keen and thinks its just my age and clock ticking...so what if it is?

He says we would be mad to start all over again now but its all I think about, I see what he means but I still want one

I had DD six and a half years after ds2 and 10 years after ds1. I was 40.

It was pretty easy. But I was unprepared for just how devastated ddd would be when ds1 left home.
On the plus side the free babysitting was great

Fwiw though I think your dds opinions are neither here nor there. Girls under 10 take being getting a sibling as seriously as the understand the consequence of getting a puppy.

My mum had a baby when her youngest was 9.

My mum now as a 2.7 year old and a 1.3 year old

free babysitting is a bonus
yeah I know she doesnt understand the challenges and reality of it but tbh, her being all for it is just a bonus...the real problem is, its all I bloody think about
Im more worried about tiredness.....financial impact...relationship impact tbh

I guess its better then her been against it.

I was against my mum having her 2 year old. Only because it meant we were pregnant at the same time and meant harder to find a sitter

My mum has a 13, 10, 2 and 1 year old living at home and it is hectic but she manages.

I have a son of 2 so my son and sister play well together finally. If its what you want then go for it.

I'm 42 and have ds10 ds7 and ds 9months. So a large gap and has been great - really added a lot to our family. My 7 year old keeps saying are all babies as clever as ours? and that he didn't realise how wonderful it would be to have a baby until we had one. The first thing they both do when they wake in the morning is seek out the baby, to cuddle him and play with him.

@ busyboysmum
how lovely

lol....I am 38 in Jan I am 37 now...so lets add another year onto that

Had mine at 39 and 41. Still here to tell the tale! I wouldn't worry about your age.

I had DC5 when the previous youngest was 15.

The first 3 years were great. Now she is 5 it is not so good :( My working hours have to fit around school, so even if I'm in the middle of something I have to dash off at 3pm. We spend a fortune in CC. She wakes up late every weekday and early every weekend. She's lonely so wants attention 24/7.

We'd got used to pretty much doing as we wanted. DH has continued to do so and works the hours he wants to etc while I am stuck with a 5 yo every weekend. (This of course is the crux of the problem, because he gets to sleep in and i don't). I thought of a much more coherent argument this morning

It wouldn't be quite so bad for you because as your DD is 8 you'll be used to looking after her anyway. Ours was a total reorganisation of everything.

I had DD3 when I was 38. My older three DC were then 16, 15 and 13. It's awesome second time round. It's like having your first child but you have every bit of hindsight going!

I was exactly the same as you - I had my first two at 24 and 28 then my third at 37 when the older boys were 9 and 13. It was the best thing I have ever done :D

I have enjoyed having DS3 so much - the older boys were pretty independent, I had the novelty of a new baby with the experience and confidence of having done it all before. There were moments when I wished I hadn't as I was having a bad day but the vast majority of the time it has been brilliant :D

DS3 adores DS1 particularly and they have an amazing relationship, DS1 is 18 now and DS3 is 5 and I really wouldn't change a thing most of the time.

such inspiring posts some make me twitch a little lol but generally seems like a good idea x

I'm 40. DD3 is due in 5 weeks.

DD1 is 9 in Jan and DD2 is 2 in Nov.

If you are ready for another, do it

My mum had a 3rd DC at 39, DSis and I were 14 & 12. Although DBro wasn't planned, the whole family (including grandparents, aunties and uncles) got so much joy out of him. DM really enjoyed having him in a way that she didn't get the chance when managing with a toddler and baby before.

Secretly, I think DM also loved that she had an excuse never to work full time (she had been considering it before then) and then by the time he was older in his teens, well, it was nearly retirement time

I loved having a baby brother, though DSis at age 14 was less keen - she felt the responsibility very much (and to be fair we did too much babysitting as my DM often worked evenings and weekends and DF was more hands-off in the style of a 1970's dad, not a 1990's one). This is still a major source of resentment for DSis for various reasons.

I would say though that generally several girls/women I know with much younger brothers or sisters - there is a really special love there that I can spot a mile-off.

DBro effectively had 3 mums. He and I had a bit of a brother-sister relationship, but not really, he was more of an only child.

Big downside is that it was just him and parents at home by the time he was in his teens, and he was only 22 when we lost DF.

If I was you I would definately do it, but I wouldn't wait too long.

There is a 12 year gap between my DD (5) and her big DSS (17) and they have a lovely relationship.
My DP was in for a bit of a shock though when DD arrived, his parenting skills for little ones was much rustier than he'd thought and he really struggled with the night wakings.