3 year old resisting toilet training

[Caththerese1973]

Hi
my little girl turned 3 just yesterday. I have been seriously toilet training her for about two months but she doesn't seem to be getting it. She still has heaps of accidents, rarely asks to be taken of her own accord, and nearly always puts up a struggle if I try to take her myself. I've tried rewards: stickers, even sweets. I always praise like mad if she manages a pooh in the loo. She is very articulate for her age and comes up with heaps of reasons why she would prefer to wear a nappy.
I wonder if the situation is being complicated by the fact that I am separated from her father, and she goes to stay there one night a week. I don't think he is as vigiliant about the toilet training as I am. Also, we spend a lot of time at her grandparents' place. Perhaps it is confusing for her having too many different toilets to contend with, or not enough routine? (I should add that she has never been in daycare).
Or perhaps, even though she is three, she is still not quite ready and I ought to give it a rest for a while? But having come this far (and washed many soiled training pants!)I am reluctant to have to start again from scratch.
Suggestions would be appreciated.

My friend's dd was about 3.5 when she was toilet trained. I'd say leave it a while - you're just making work for yourself. Is there any particular reason why you need her to be toilet trained? If not, I'd try again in the summer - those few months can make loads of difference.

My dd is 3 in June - she is very advanced in many ways, unfortunately she has had a problem for nearly t3 months whereby she can't poo without lots of lactulose/laxatives and lots of screaming. A health visitor suggested when we know she is brewing to put her on the potty as it will help her go - however after hours of screaming as a result she is now potty phobic and we are desperate to train her. She loves wearing pants as opposed to nappies but will hold it in until night times or bath times. It is driving me crazy.

Redwinelover - my dd was just like that, if you actually managed to get her to sit on the potty you'd think it had acid on it by the way she leapt back up. However, on Monday she just decided to sit on it and so she's been in pants since......

a top tip for pooing.

When sitting on loo or potty get them to blow bubbles using one of those little pots with the stick with a circle on the nd iykwim.

Thanks for replies - I have not had internet up until recently, so it has taken a while to check.
DD still refusing toilet. She just seems to prefer to go in her nappy/pullups! Training pants nearly always get weed/pooed on unless I remind her to go, and she really resists being made to go. I think it has now become an 'issue': that is, something she wants to challenge me about.
BTW, for respondent who suggested waiting until summer....I am in Australia and it IS summer. She actaully did not do too badly when I tried the no pants at all thing, but then I felt her little bot was getting a bit sore from sitting on carpet, grass etc unprotected.
Perhaps I should just forget it for now. Currently she is saying she is 'too sick and tired' to go to the toilet!
Main motivation for getting her trained is need to save on nappies/pullups. I wonder about those pullups, too. They are very expensive and she treats them exactly like nappies.
Anyway

Cath, dd2 was 31/2 when we decided to ditch the pull ups. We did it one morning when she said 'Aw, I've done a wee in my nappy'. As you say she's quite articulate, maybe wait until she can say that? Dunno. Good luck, though.