Ever have problems with other parents at school being bitchy?

[trumphy]

I don't want to go into too much detail, but I've had problems with a particular group of mums at school. I keep trying to rise above it, be pleasant and get on with my day, but I dread drop off and pick up times.

It all started when my kids were chosen to do different things at school, given responsibilty for jobs in the classroom etc. I have had nothing to do with it, the teachers made the decision. Since then it's been pathetic, they've made a point of walking directly in front of me and turning their backs, whispering and ignoring me when I say hello (I know it sounds ridiculous). I never thought I'd be dealing with this as an adult.

Just ignore them. If they want to act like high school mean girls, that's their problem.

They want a reaction. Don't give them one and they'll give up eventually.

Or there is always this look every time they even so much as look at you.

Rise above stupid biatches.

Ha ha, I like that look! By the way, how do you do those little smilies? I haven't been able to figure it out yet (sorry I'm a bit new to all this).

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There's a list down below this box I am typing in!

The lady at the centre of this does seem to be the 'alpha' mummy. Always has a flock of other mums around her. I actually thought she was ok until this started happening, a bit shocked really, but then I guess she didn't view me as a threat until my kids got selected for a few things.

I just can't get my head around that way of thinking!

I have met some nice mums as well!

Thanks, I finally figured it out! Only took me about 10 minutes, ha ha. Must be my befuddled school holiday brain!

oh my goodness, this is so childish! Surely you could group up with the 'more intellectual' set? I would assume they are the chav mums set? Luckily have no problems at my infants.

You always get ignorant parents yet you get the others set too. Concentrate with building relationships with the nicer, brighter set. You wont notice them then.

Shallow women are just sados!

Wow, what weirdos, spread a rumour about alpha mummys husband impregnating his mistress (just don't get caught), that will give her some drama and everybody will be gossiping about her. These women don't have anything going on in their lives, how pathetic. Ignore (until the rumour has spread and once you've 'heard' it yourself you can smirk at her).

Treat like dirt at the bottom of your shoe.

Wouldn't advise the rumour spreading as that's just as childish either ignore, as you're not at school anymore and 10minutes in the playground is just that.

Or when you just need to say something politely smile and ask them how long ago they actually left school, allow time for it to register, and then shrug and walk away.

oh I remember some mums like that at infant school....start hanging about with the foreigners and other outsiders, they are far nicer.

I haven't encountered such bitches since I was in school myself. It's horrible. I'm not local to the area I live and from day one of living where I do, I've been made to feel like a complete outsider.

Lots of nasty things have happened, none involving the children thank goodness, but I've stopped even trying to be friendly with most of the people.

I just now keep my distance, watch what I say (as it will be repeated)and keep my few good friends even closer. Bloody crap really.

Thanks for you input everyone, much appreciated. Hello Bacon nice to meet you, in answer to your message, the mums involved are not what you would consider Chavs at all. They are far more educated than me and always in coversation with the teachers etc. Whereas I don't feel that confident (I still feel like a kid myself sometimes when speaking to the teachers !

Trumphy, you say they are educated, well it's a shame their education didn't cover basic manners.

There are pain in the arse mums like this or similar in every playground in the country, just thank God you are not one of them. Ignore the petty stuff and just be pleasant if you are forced to come into contact with them, otherwise, keep well out of it, is my advice

Oh yes, I know the sort!! Been the subject of plenty of whispering and snide remarks in the past. Nearly always it's the "trying to be better than all you commoners" person, who invariably has a little darling who is much better behaved than your DC, much more academic, blah boast boast

Only thing you can do is try and grow your thick skin as thick as possible and don't let them get to you. If they haven't yet grown up, they probably aren't ever going to - they'll be bitchy, gossipy and judgemental old ladies in however many years time!

And face it - would you really want to be on great terms or friends with someone as childish as that?

every school gate has this particular kind of group. they are just bored, shallow and need to get something more interesting to occupy themselves it will never change-you just care less about it.

I just drop the Dcs and run. No chatting etc. Solves the problem.