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SHOUTING!

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PooPooOnMars · 28/08/2012 08:14

My ds 3.10 is always shouting or just speaking louder than is necessary, considering he is right next to me or whoever he's playing with.

I keep telling him not to shout, and pointing out that he needs to think about how close other people are when talking but it makes no difference.

I've had enough of the shouting!

Has anyone else had this? What can i do that will actually make a differences?

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Elephantshavewrinkles · 28/08/2012 08:40

Hi he can hear ok? I only ask as if he was having trouble it would explain the shouting.

I would say if not try and explain that inside you use a quiet voice and that you can't understand what he is saying. When he comes shouting just tell him you don't understand and he needs to say it in his quiet voice.

Keep doing this again and again until he is a little less loud.

MrsShrek3 · 28/08/2012 08:44

Dd did this, she had glue ear and some hearing loss. Ds2 also did it because he had to be as loud as the others at nursery and didn't remember how to switch back at home. I think all dcs do it at some stage but best to double check underlying stuff too.

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PooPooOnMars · 28/08/2012 08:46

I did wonder but he seems to have no trouble hearing us, except that he is easily distracted and so is not really paying attention a lot of the time, rather then not able to hear what we are saying.

I have been concerned that he might have adhd due to the constantly being distracted and on a thread i read about that shouting was mentioned.

He's too young to find out if he does though so am trying to deal with the shouting as an separate thing.

It really gets to me!

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PooPooOnMars · 28/08/2012 08:46

Perhaps I'll take him for a hearing test to rule it out then.

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Elephantshavewrinkles · 28/08/2012 08:55

I'm sure it does! Go and get his hearing checked just to rule it out.

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PooPooOnMars · 28/08/2012 09:04

My sibling used to (and still does) shout all the time. They clearly have undiagnosed sn and show adhd and asd traits. They were never told not to shout or actually guided in any way, so Im wondering if that would actually make a difference. Or is it that if they have adhd your stuck with the shouting and nothing i do will have an effect.

I grew up with constant shouting and so i hate it! I never got any peace.

One of my parents shows adhd traits plus some social issues as well and when i talk will just talk louder over me.

So that's (my life story) and why it gets to me and also worries me

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