Anxiety

[BlingLoving]

Does anyone else find that since dc come along you are more anxious. When ds was tiny it was terrible but I knew it was linked to very bad baby blues and would get better. It did.

But I am still more anxious than in past. Dh is out tonight and I feel anxious. I'm scared that da will wake up and cry?! So silly - I handle his crying at night all the time but somehow it seems scarier without dh here.

At least I am not panicky - my strange anxiety is about trivial things. Im not worrying about ds generally. But it's awful. Do others get this?

Yes, i do my dd is almost 7 and its been since then, i worry and get anxious and i can't tell you what about? I wonder if its hormonal as i wasn't like that before. After my dd was born i'd get really anxious about juggling the day to day things,but loved her to bits and relished being a mum, it has eased off a little since taking evening primrose, which makes me think hormones? Hate to be the profit of doom, but i still have it. Would like some advice on how to deal tho.x

Oh yes. It was the invisible twin that came home from the hospital. That anxiety. It verges and mixes with paranoia, neurosis, worry and has high level and low level days. But never goes away - you just learn not to let it take over completely!

DH says I never relax. Well I do but even when I do, I have a close eye or a keen ear on my DS. Unless we are home which is more relaxing than any other place.

He and others don't seem to get that we dont like being anxious and it's not a voluntary thing!

So. No you ain't alone!

What gets me is when people say, just don't worry! If i knew how to do that i would!

If only worry was a button you could access....and switch off.

I have wished that very thing so many times.

Molly - that's it exactly. It's not specific at all. Yes, I also have the constant worry to check ds is ok etc, but that's different and can often be dealt with logically - "he is in garden, very little can happen to him.". But the general, non specific anxiety drives me crazy.

Yes I've been more anxious since having DC.

Constantly anxious. There are big triggers like dd's friendships and ds's speech but I really only relax when all three dc are asleep.

molehillmountain I try to relax too when they're asleep but instead I just get worked up about the day ahead and wondering what that will entail - totally ridiculous. Am my own worst enemy!

Having posted this originally I've been thinking about it. And for me, it's sleep. The lack of control over my sleep, which is why I feel it at night. It's not the crying I itself that makes me anxious but rather the feeling that I am tired but dont know how much sleep I will get. Tonight being a good example. I we t to bed at 11. I have been up off and on ever since.

I think ultimately, for all of us, it's that sense of not having control that makes us anxious.

Oh yes-going to bed and not knowing when I'll be woken does my head in.

Bling loving, I am exactly the same. I hate not being in control of sleep. I worry that I will feel so tired I get sick or will lose my cool.