Okay, ds1 aged almost seven had try outs today for his schools KS1 football team. He is actually quite good and has loads of energy. Spends almost every fine night after school in the garden with Dh playing football or cricket so is quite sporty. So I phoned my dad who works at the school for an update and he said that everything was going well and that they were still getting through all the try outs. Asked him to keep me posted if anything serious happened but no phone call so assumed all was well.
Unsuspecting mother arrives at school this afternoon to have a weepy and aggressive ds1 launch at her about how it's all her fault he didn't make the team because I kept grounding him. Had a quiet word to the teacher and asked him how he'd done. Ds1 overheard and all hell broke loose. Shouting at his teacher who'd held the trials and calling him names. Not a pretty sight and I felt 
as usual. Was expecting another suspension but luckily teacher managed to calm him.
So I've got a very weepy and aggressive monster tearing up the house and ds2 is just watching and then copying. Tried sitting him on my knee for a cuddle and explaining that although his teacher said he was very good, he needed someone he could rely on. Was met with further 
and tried to calm him without much luck.
Basically he's a disruptive kid who's been excluded from school twice and uses inappropriate language a lot of the time. If you were a teacher would you want a time bomb like that in a school team you were taking to represent you. Am I just an unsympathetic mother? How do I cope with his emotions? He's going to get knocked back a lot more than once in his life.