socks
I dint understand you post at all - she was assessed, dh was assessed, she had .6 of a child, he had 1.4, net effect was her due to pay him. She never paid.
She also committed benefit fraud by claiming for the DC who lived with us, for howhereupon don't know, whereupon at some point they identified a duplicate claim and stopped all tax credits and CB for children living int house, while they investigated.
Eventually they reinstated, backpaid me and made her repay them (apparently our fault?)
In addition she was hostile to contact re the youngest DC - the .4 spent with DH was court ordered against her wishes.
While she wasn't paying her assessed maint, we were constantly accused of being tight, mean, not paying, etc, when in fact the opposite was true.
When the child who lived with us got passed the age where she was no longer entitled to maint - despite being in 4.5k of arrears, we got hit was an amended assessment - which we are paying because I can't be bothered with the argument with the CSA.
Apparently the fact we didn't enforce collection means her arrears dont count.
dont like her for a variety of reasons - her emotional abuse of her children being the main one but there are others.
Personally I think she is lower than low and one day karma will come back and bite her - but that has little to with what I think about how we have ended up paying money to a woman who by the CSAs own calculations is thousands of pounds in assessed arrears.
That to me doesn't seem right - it has also meant the DC concerned is worse off as she is no longer receiving pocket money etc, as we were paying the DC direct - have had to stop as we can't afford both.
We have always paid and cared for all the children in our relationship - as opposed to their mother, who chose to without love, money and affection in order to punish any child who dared to show any loyalty to their dad.