MummyOfMystery - I see your point, but have also helped plenty of men who weren't seeing their DC's to either come to an amicable agreement, or go through court to gain access. The difference is that they were willingly paying the maintenance required. So I DO know that there ARE good NRP's out there, BUT the majority AREN'T. And those are the ones that the CSA are there to deal with.
Yes, I get that it is unfortunate that blanket policies are necessary, due to cost issues, but I don't see that as disadvantaging GOOD NRP's, but to disadvantage BAD NRP's.
Yes, I think that in an ideal world, all benefits to do with a child should be split between the RP and the NRP, based on the same percentage as the split in contact, but because the majority of NRP's won't then take on an equal split of costs involved in that DC's upbringing, there HAS to be that protection there for the CHILD in that situation, that their RP isn't left way below the poverty line trying to pay 100% of the costs other than food out of 50% of the money. You CAN'T remove that protection by saying that the benefits should be split between the RP and the NRP at an equal percentage to the access split WITHOUT removing the protection from poverty for that CHILD.
And that is where the crux of these issues lies.
If the powers that were already available to the CSA, but are rarely used, to penalise feckless NRP's who make no attempt to support their DC's financially, (emotionally through access is a different issue, as access is separate from maintenance), were actually used and enforced, then this might not be such an issue, and the benefits anomaly could possibly be rectified.
And if there were measures in place to restore the split benefits to the RP in the event that the NRP is not using them to effectively support the child (buying no clothes, buying no shoes or uniform, not contributing to school trips, not contributing to after school activities etc), then it would be fine to do this. But as the costs of investigating each and every disputed case would be astronomical, I can't see a way around it, without the DWP/ HMRC creating a whole new department, and running it with enough staff to quickly and fairly assess disputed cases, which would create extra burden on the State when there are ongoing cuts in every area.
How would you fund this, NotaDisneyMum, allnew etc? Because if the benefits that are paid in respect of the child are split, there WILL be disputed cases, especially when the RP is still having to cover all other costs except food while the DC is with its NRP.
I can't see any way around that, because while YOUR partners or Ex's WOULD pay properly, and take equal responsibility for the costs involved in bringing up that DC, many, MANY NRP's WOULDN'T, and there WILL be disputed cases, which WILL cost money to investigate.
Still think HB should be paid to both the NRP and the RP though, you can't pick up a bedroom and move it between houses, unlike clothing, toys etc. THAT really pisses me off. It was only 3 years of fighting that got my local council to accept that given the split of access, DS1 needed to be included on both council housing applications, as, well, YOU CAN'T MOVE A CHUFFING BEDROOM, OR EVEN A 3ftx6ft SPACE TO FIT A BLOODY BED IN.