I feel awful.
For several years dd's schools have said that she has difficulties concentrating and following instructions. She has been described as "zoning-out" and "away with the fairies". In everyone's opinion it goes beyond normal day dreaming. She does not follow the plot in simple stories and gets words confused eg "hot" for "cold" and "cat" for "dog". She often forgets what she is supposed to be doing mid-task and cannot remember instructions with more than one part. She moved schools at Easter as we felt that the much smaller class sizes would help her. Her new teacher reported the same problems.
As a result she was referred to a peadiatrician and saw an Ed psych. The pead consultant was unable to come to a conclusion based on what he saw - he said there might be attention problems and he suggested that we and the school keep a diary of what happens and come back in a few months.
The Ed psych said that she performed above average in all the tests that she did. There was no problem with working memory (which is what the school thought) and attention seemed fine. The only problem was that she spent more time trying to manipulate the Ed psych in to giving her the answers than actually doing the tests.
The conclusion that the EP reached was that the only way to reconcile the opinion of the school and us with what she observed was to conclude that dd was afraid to enage with tasks, perhaps because she was afraid to fail.
I cannot believe that we have ended up here and that we have done this to dd. Does anyone have any suggestions how we can move on and make dd engage?