offered place at pre-school but not potty trained

[bagpussmice]

dd2 has been offered a place at pre-school to start after Easter, but at 2.5 months she is not yet potty trained. Will they expect her to be out of nappies when she starts - I am in a panic now and feel pressured to get her trained, but not sure she is quite ready.

It's only 2.5 hours isn't it? Ours let them go in a pull up if they aren't fully potty trained. I said something to them along the lines "She's still having a few accidents so to be safe I'm sending her in a pull up. You won't have to change it in the time she's there!" knowing full well she wasn't potty trained.

I made sure that she had a fresh pull up on when she went. They were fine about it. Now they have lowered the age to 2.6 yrs they can't expect them to be trained.

My ds3 was offered a place at playgroup when he was only just 2.6 and had to be potty trained before he could go, so I did train him earlier than I would have liked to. A lot of Mners said to me then that the playgroup had no right to expect him to be trained, but I am not sure if they are right or not. Anyway, i ddin't have the nerve to challenge it.

I do agree with Yafta though that if a child is in a nappy or pull-ups for 2.5 hours, it is unlikely they would need changing in that time and the playgroup could always say that if your child did soil their nappy, you were to come and change it for them. Perhaps it is worth asking them how they feel about this. Have you not been given a copy of their policy? or a prospectus?

They don't have to be potty trained to start at DD's pre-school. Have you asked them if they will take her if she isn't?

I think that pre-schools etc are no longer able to insist on children being toilet-trained as it discriminates against children who have disabilities. It's not even as simple as them saying "We'll let you off if your child has SN" because many children with SN aren't formally diagnosed until they are older.

One of my post natal mums works in a nursey.
She told me that they can 'request' that your child is potty trained.
But, that they can not 'insist'.
I think, I will need to check with her, that there was a law recently, or guidelines, or something, to say that.
They have no right to insist.
They CAN NOT refuse, a non potty trained child.
They may tell YOU, that they wish , but they have no leg to stand on.
If you need me to ask my friend for 'documentary evidence', I will.
Hope that helps.

thanks everyone.. got a visit there in a few weeks so will ask the questions then.