Sleep problems and seperation anxiety....help please!

[tinky19]

DD is 8 1/2 mo and driving me slowly round the bend!!

We have spent the last month trying to do cc/ pupd/ bedtime routines etc and all has failed!!

She manages to go to sleep in her cot (but she has to be pretty sleepy when I put her down) but will wake up 30 minutes later and scream the house down. The only thing that will then calm her down is being with me (preferably on my boob). That's the only way to get her back to sleep/ calm down.

Like I said, we've tried stroking/ singing her back to sleep but she crys on and on and on and even when she has cried herself to sleep she wakes up 30 mins later and it starts all over again!

The last few nights I've given in out of exhaustion and let her stay downstairs then sleep in our bed but it basically means that dh and I have a crap nights sleep as she kicks, scratches etc.

Any ideas?
Like I said, really fed up now!

Anybody? Please!!

My dts are younger at 6 1/2 months but have just started to try cc for day naps (I know we will be slated for this but its a personal thing imo and a very last resort!). It seems to me maybe you are trying too many things and it could be confusing baby. For bedtime we introduced a routine and stuck with it religiously it took a while but we got there and my dts sleep 7-7 even when teething. I think you need to decide on one method and stick to your guns night after night after night... for this I would recommend bedtime routine (it doesn't work for me in the day though!). as it's the easiest on everyone but can take a while. Give it a month of bedtime routine every single night and if still a problem then maybe think of the other methods? Is she teething though as it can rely mess up their sleep? I would ask your hv for advice tbh. I find sometimes the opinions of other mums to be a little bit deterring and scary when you are feeling so desperate and despondant but ime the preofessionals are the ones who can support you. Good luck!

Sorry just to clarify a few things. In a month trying 3 very different things plus stroking rocking to sleep can be confusing. I have experienced this! My dt2 was a horrible sleeper at first as in he just wouldn't he would go in his cot and we would rock him to sleep but eventually give in and have him back downstairs until he fell asleep. I can understand why you do this as it is easier but not in the long term. I went out and got me and dh some balls of steel and we stopped giving in. We would still rock him back then but stopped bringing him back downstairs at all it took a few nights but he got the message. He was much younger then so cc was no option for me at all.