i dont know how much longer i can cope

[Cazm2]

I did start another thread but cant find it now. Have dd 5 months old she has become such a challenge its getting me down. Had emergency forceps del lost lot of Blood not best start. Then diagnosed finally at 2 months with silent reflux then taken ill at 4 months with urine infection in hosp for 5 days.undergoing tests on kidneys and bladder now. Since hospital she has developed a terrible temper and terrible screaming. I cant leave her for more than 15 mins she is rolling over attempting to crawl then gets frustrated after 10 mins screams, she screams most nap times, inbetween 4 and 6 she Is awful try bath get out screaming. One minute she is Happy next miserable. I have just started weaning as showing signs but not really sure what I am doing just winging it she seems to get on ok. Trouble is the screaming fits she does it with everyone and its getting me really down. I am starting to feel its something I have done to make her like it. I dont feel able to leave her with people as i think they are judging me even my mum. My sister has two children the four month old Boy is a dream. I am getting very tearful and resentful of dd even though not her fault. She is I think teething. I just cant take days of endless miserableness and screaming

You poor thing

Does she like a sling or a play gym to look at things?

Would she settle if you walked her in the pram and wheeled into the house if she falls asleep?

Oh OP, I really feel for you. Have they suggested anything else? Could she have colic as well? If so, there's not much you can do except give her lots of cuddles and wait it out. Or is she intolerant to dairy or foods which is making her uncomfortable/upset?

I'm sure you've already thought about this, but have you simply tried putting her in a sling all the time. Being snuggled close to you might make her feel better.

Good luck and hope things improve soon.

She likes her toys and gym but doesnt stayon her back for Long flips over. She does this at nighttime to constantly trying to get on her tummy. I have so far Only given her rice and avocado bit of mango puree. I thought colic went at 3 months? Its just so difficult it has crossed my mind about intolerence she scratches her tummy a lot to

Could you take her to see a cranial osteopath? (I know this is very much each to their own, so feel free to ignore :))

DS2 was a very unhappy baby until we saw a CO, might be worth a try!

Is the silent reflux being treated? DS screamed pretty much non-stop until we discovered it was silent reflux and fortunately I found out it was caffeine that was causing it. I gave it up (breastfeeding) and he's been much happier since. I know it's not always that simple but the other babies I know with it have responded very well to medication or a change in diet.

I've not tried cranial osteopathy myself but have heard great things about it from mums and midwives alike.. It may be worth a try.

As a recent 1st time mum myself I know exactly where you're coming from wondering if people are judging you when your baby cries. But I can assure you that most people will just be sympathising and wanting to help in any way they can.

It's horrible when your baby is upset but as long as her needs are met you are doing a great job. In time babies get happier when they are able to do more and communicate more. Now is a great time to start baby Signing. DS didn't crawl and used to get very frustrated when he wanted to get places/sit up etc but couldn't. I think babies need an element of frustration to encourage them to do things but baby Signing really helped us ease a little of the frustration. His speech is fantastic now at 18 months and he's much happier. I'm sure the signing helped.

I would recommend you read the 'wonder weeks' website if you haven't already. You might be able to put some of your baby's unhappiness down to development leaps, they are very frequent in the first few months. I also recommend you research 'high needs' babies and see if any of the 'symptoms' apply to your DD. It helped me to know DS is just the way he is and not my 'fault' when things got difficult. They will get easier, try and have faith and take each day at a time. Your LO will change so much when she's able to do more and communicate with you. :)

Just remembered when DS was your DDs age we used to take him out in the sling before bathtime, he'd have one last nap (terrible napper but so cranky without) which seemed to settle him for the evening.

I try and be thankful that he is very vocal even though his screaming, whinging and shouting drives me mad because I never have to wonder if he's OK - he lets me know loud and clear!

Try not to compare DD to your DN - all babies are different and a lot is down to nature. He could be a dream baby but turn out to be a nightmare toddler for all you know!

Her silent reflux is being treated ranitidine and domperidone. I did try cranial but three sessions nothing happened!

Colic does not go at three months - trust me! We finally were able to wean our daughter off colief at 7 months - we tried at 5 and the screaming came back!
I would recommend using a sling, it really helped to soothe my dd. I found once she had good head control then using a jumperoo was brilliant - my dd hated laying down too x

Well she is on comfort milk which has less lactose did try colief when younger but Didnt work. We have been swimming today and tired out in bed by 7 Hopefully this will help. There is just terrible screaming now when tired. She seems to be taking to baby rice ok just worried about follow on milk etc as her comfort milk is thick and helps with reflux

Dont switch to follow on if the comfort is working for you. I switched to follow on at 8 months ish and the HV told me that there was no need really but I could if I wanted. (I only did it because I thought I was supposed too!) x