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Messy mealtimes (14mo)

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brokenmummy · 15/08/2012 20:42

My DS is 14 mo and I have no idea if I'm doing the right thing with his eating.

He eats really well, most of the time, quite varied, and he feeds himself with his hands (not great with cutlery yet). I usually spoon feed 1-2 meals a day. He generally eats better if he has things to play with, e.g. spoons, an empty bowl/cup/container to fill with food/water etc.

The problem is that he is SO messy. He throws food as soon as he gets bored and his water cup can be quite dangerous at 50mph through the air. At first it was ok, dropping food then peering over the high chair to check out gravity at work. Now he just has a bit of a tantrum once he's done and food goes all over the place. I try to only put a few bits down at any one time.

If I'm feeding him yoghurt, which I know he loves, he will only open his mouth to eat it if one hand is in the yoghurt. Then gets cross when I take it away. Same goes for most food actually.

I am trying to ignore all of this as I don't want him to think I care or that it will stress me out. I do make him stay in his chair until I have cleaned up around him and wiped him down. Constant whinging at this point.

Anyway, this has been going on for about 6 months now and I would have thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I want to start taking him out for meals but whenever we attempt it we leave a bomb site behind and I feel terrible!

We generally don't eat as a family which would probably help but DH not home til after 8 and the last thing I feel like doing at lunch time is sitting down and eating a meal while trying to focus on ds.

Help!

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Tee2072 · 15/08/2012 21:24

Yes, at 14 months, that's what they do.

Put an easy clean something on the floor, cover him in a bib and remember 'this too shall pass'.

missorinoco · 15/08/2012 21:32

It's normal and it passes.

Dc 18 months now; I don't have to mop after every meal and snack now, but it's not pretty.

As soon as food starts going on the floor not by accident that part of the meal is over, e.g main to pudding, pudding to game over.

He either throws a strop as he wants to mess about more, or throws a strop because he wants to be down ten seconds ago, or rarely gleefully looks at his mess new decorations to the kitchen floor..

If I'm feeling faint hearted about another kitchen armageddon I avoid rice/scrambled egg for the day and stand close if I offer yoghurt.

I don't usually eat with my children if it's just me; it's like being a waitress in a cafe full of demented patrons. I don't get to stand still, let alone sit down for more than twenty seconds.

brokenmummy · 16/08/2012 06:49

Thanks, glad to know its normal!

So is ignoring the best thing, or should I be trying to teach him that it's wrong? And if so, how?! I am already trying to cut back my use of the word 'no'!

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Tee2072 · 16/08/2012 07:06

Just ignore it.

RubyrooUK · 16/08/2012 11:16

When you feed him, does he get his own spoon too? My DS got very frustrated being fed by someone else even before he was very competent.

So he had one spoon to practice with, while I put food in his mouth with the other. The feeling of control using his own spoon (even if he didn't eat much at first) really stopped him getting so annoyed while eating.

But also mess is a part of eating for babies. My DS was covered in food at 14 months. My DS is now nearly two and is so tidy he asks for a wipe to clean himself if he drops any food. Blush

beela · 16/08/2012 12:29

It's normal. I used to strip DS off to t-shirt and nappy before meals because he made so much mess, even with a bib.

He is 22 months now, and I allow him to remain fully clothed at mealtimes and occasionally I don't need to crawl around the floor wiping up after his mealtimes, so it must be gradually getting better. I still can't imagine a time when he won't need a bib though, although I am sure it will come one day (hopefully before he starts school).

I've not done much to try to stop him - I adopted the attitude that he couldn't do much other messy play at 14 months because everything went in his mouth, so he might as well do it at mealtimes. I did / do tell him off if he throws food or cutlery deliberately though.

If he makes a big mess when we are out in a cafe / restaurant I usually ask a passing waitress if I can borrow a dustpan and brush or cloth to clear up the mess. I've only actually been taken up on this offer once or twice, but usually they are really pleased that I have offered to help, and I don't feel so Blush

Our current challenge is him tipping water out of his tommee tippee cup onto the table ('ooh, tiny puddle!'), as soon as I take the cup away he suddenly realises that he is very thirsty Hmm and then I feel bad for potentially dehydrating him so give it back, he drinks a bit, tips a bit more on the table ('mess!') - and so it continues...

On the plus side, he loves to use a cloth wipe up all the mess he has made at the end of a meal, he looks so proud when it is all mostly cleared up!

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