At the end of my tether with DD

[ALittleBitOfMagic]

DD (7) has all of a sudden decided she is nor going to listen to a thing I say . When I ask her to do something I either get a point blank "no" or she goes off as if to do it but doesn't actually do it . I spend most of my time asking her to do things that never get done .

We spend the majority of our time now in a battle of wits and I miss the days when we actually spent together like quality time . Sometimes I feel like I'm being too hard on her but I don't want to allow her to say no to me .

She tries it a bit with DH but gives in with him whereas she will stand her ground with me .

I dont know what to do with her shes never really been one to need disciplining .

Bumpety bump

errr.. she's growing up, testing the boundaries and realising which parent is more of a "pushover" ?

More "Go do it" ...... "NOW young lady"

or try sitting down through lunchtime, and when she is hungry say "so what"..... "I'm not feeding you if you don't do your jobs"...

Been through this stage - now have 2 lovely girls who set the table when I just say "tea is nearly ready", who take the dog out for a walk when he paws at the door, who actually asked granny if she wanted a glass of water with NO prompting whatsoever (I nearly died with pride!!)... trouble is they are now 10 and 11 - it took a while to get through the trying it on stage......

Agree with By. DS spent the first 2 weeks of the holidays testing his limits, he's 8. Had a lot of well, if you don't do x then Y won't happen. Yesterday he actually got the hoover out and did the hoovering while I did the kitchen and without me asking.

Stand firm but explain that xyz won't be going on.