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Looking after Nieces Part - Time

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Kerry1983 · 08/08/2012 18:52

Hi guys,

I'm looking for some advice and someone recommended this website.

Its kind of a long story - but I will try to keep it short..

My sister has a five year old and a two year old. She has currently been diagnosed with bipolar and is really struggling with the girls. She has always been hard work - drug problems etc. He husband is always taking drugs (coke, weed etc) and he can often be violent, in and out of work et etc.

My sister will be receiving help from the CMHT and is taking medication. However, being the concerned aunt I have offered to have the girls part time. I am very close to my nieces, we have a fab bond. My sister doesn't want to loose her children but has agreed to three days a week - and seems very grateful.

Im not sure of anyone knows much about bipolar but her moods are all over, her spending and risky behaviour etc are out of control. She is in so much debt that I feel unable to ask her to contribute to food etc whilst the girls are with me.

I am full time student at university (and so very skint!) - i will be going into my final year. I will be in placement until the end of Jan which means I will have to work full time (with no wages). Again, I feel unable to ask my sister to pay for the nursery fees for the youngest as her money problems are so vast.

We have made these arrangements personally and she is so frightened of social services becoming involved (even though they would only help - she is not of rational mind to understand).

Does anyone know if I would be able to get any help with finance, nursery etc?

If you need any more info then just ask.

Thanks....

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Rockchick1984 · 09/08/2012 09:13

Your sister will currently (Based on assumptions regarding her income that I've made) be in receipt of tax credits for the children, and also child benefit. Due to the way the benefits system works, these can only be paid to one person (it should always be the children's main carer). These are paid for the CHILDREN though, not for the adult. You are doing something amazing by helping her out, she should at the very least be assisting you financially out of the benefits she gets given for her children!

I hope that doesn't sound harsh, you need to remember that you're not asking her to give you any money which is meant for her.

chipmunksex · 09/08/2012 19:49

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