10 month old - is no separation anxiety normal?

[pingulingo]

My 10 month old DS is spending a couple of days with his grandparents. They live 150 miles away so we don't see them every week, but DS has seen them in the past month.

Whilst I cried on the way home after dropped DS off yesterday, DS is happy as anything at his grandparents and showing no signs of missing either me or DP.

I'm happy that DS is so happy and not slightly miffed he doesnt miss me at all but please tell me this is ok and I've not managed to break him already with his emotional development!

I worried about this with my ds who had no separation anxiety whats so ever until about 3 weeks ago at the age of 21 months he has decided that the only one he wants is mumma!!! And although it is lovely that he wants me all the time it has become slightly tiring!! So i am sure your time will come

You will be happy to know that this can be a sign of quite secure attachment to you as he is not becoming distraught and obviously knows in his own way that you come back. You may feel miffed :o but it is a good thing and no you haven't broken him!

My ds had no sign of separation anxiety until 18 months.

You could be me Pingu! DS is 11 months. Been left with my Mum on a number of occasions but not regularly - as in for a day or overnight (but with us there just before bed time and in the morning - IYSWIM. He has always been very happy to be there.

Recently went on holiday with Mum and DH and DS literally pushed me away to be with either of them!! Felt quite hurt by it TBH but then people kept saying it meant he was well adjusted, knew I would always be there for him etc....still, bit of a kick in the teeth! The first day we were back we went to a music class and he was snuggling up to me and acting all coy which I really rather liked.

He has been settling in at nursery over the past week and has got a bit clinging with me there and probably a bit teary when I leave (I drop him off and then if he looks wobbly I try and leave, as if he started crying I would have to be forcibly evicted). However at home, Daddy is still the best

thanks everyone, I'm now feeling slightly less worried. I do love that MN is so good at making me feel like not such a bad parent after all - and so quickly too! Thanks again and I look forward to a more clingy child in the future .