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Resources for AS/NT partnerships

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Derkyderpy · 26/07/2012 17:41

A few of us have been discussing ways to share resources and info on AS/NT partnerships on MN. This thread is to see if we can draw together some of the resources people have found most helpful and beneficial.

If you have a useful and constructive link or recommendation to suggest, please do add it!

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TheLaminator · 10/07/2013 12:36

Popped on here today for some advice/resorces...
Loads of helpful links here, thanks apaintedveil.

Things have been tough recently after a big move to a new country, Im feeling very isolated & just a wee bit stressed! My husbands AS diagnosis is fairly recent & although some things have become easier for him to deal with/understand with regaurds to how it effects HIM and a lot of things have fallen into place. But he is finding it hard to grasp that his disorder/wiring (still struggeling to find the correct word to use...) has a massive impact on the family too. We have two boys 5 & 30months. I have read so many articles, forum pages etc & am gaining knowledge all the time, but, my husband refuses to read anything about it. He finds excuses not to do it... not enough hours in the day, dyslexia etc. Im feeling as if Im the only one who is trying to find ways to cope & communicate better. We argue and I feel like a bitch who is pissed of with someone with no legs not being able to walk (bad analogy, i know, im struggeling!).
He really has no idea the amount of allowence that I make for him & just how much organising I do to make family life run relitively smoothly. I am so worried of how this is/will effect the children, and my own mental well being .His not hearing/understanding me is a massive trigger for me due to childhood abuse.
Having a bad day and wondering how long we can keep up this un-healthy cycle. Each time I try to explain how I am feeling, he gets defensive & angry & thinks I am blaming him because his is 'Not Normal' (his words).
AAargh, I dont know...think i just needed a rant, but any advice/ personal experience appreciated.

MrsTwgtwf · 10/07/2013 13:33

I have PM'd you, TheLaminator. Smile

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brightonmatt · 19/07/2013 23:05

I have a diagnosis of AS, and am to become a first-time father next year at the age of 53. I have an amazingly capable and loving partner who has a 28 year-old daughter. Our families are being very supportive. I worry how my Aspergers will affect the way I react to fatherhood, and wonder if anyone else out there is/has been in a similar situation? Thanks for any advice!

Roseannie · 20/07/2013 16:03

Hi brighton-my dh is 54 and has AS also. I would say that my dh struggled greatly when the dcs were babies and was no help/support to me whatsoever-he became much better with them as they got older.However,we were unaware of his AS back then and for that reason I think you will probably be ok actually.You are probably well aware of your strengths and difficulties and sound as if you are really thinking this throughSmile. Your partner also knowing about your AS will make a huge difference-I wish I had known about dh back then,16 yrs ago,as I would have been able to make allowances for his behaviour. I think my dh found the baby stage very hard as he couldnt relate to them but really bonded with the dcs as they learned to walk and talk.I would also say that despite everything ,dh is a great dad and loves them to bits and they adore him also.
Hope all goes well for you and your partnerSmile.

MrsFrederickWentworth · 20/07/2013 20:00

Brighton, going to pm you.

apaintedveil · 23/08/2013 14:20

www.pasda.org.uk/

PASDA seems to be a fantastic resource for people in Scotland. Scroll down that page to their resources link.

apaintedveil · 23/08/2013 14:39

In fact the PASDA Handbook here is quite remarkable. Lots of Scottish resources, but tons of info for people anywhere. Seriously, look at it. I'm stunned.

apaintedveil · 23/08/2013 14:45

some humour

apaintedveil · 23/08/2013 16:01

www.aspires-relationships.com/

There is a new pdf on the link: Marriage with Asperger?s Syndrome: 14 Practical Strategies. Recommended.

apaintedveil · 14/11/2013 16:56

www.moodscope.com/

apaintedveil · 11/03/2014 00:12

There's a new website here:

www.different-together.co.uk/

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Derkyderpy · 30/05/2014 23:23

elearning.autismwestmidlands.org.uk/store

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