the simple things you miss...

[lola88]

... once you have a baby

What does everyone miss? I miss long showers and time to shave my legs

Being able to pop out to see friends.
Being able to have a hangover.
Not having a handbag full of toddler related crap.
Daytime sex.

Waking up naturally, and then having a nice quiet breakfast listening to the radio.
And pooing in peace, definitely.

Mine are almost old enough to leave in an evening and have a meal without paying for a sitter.

What did I miss.

Hot food (babies always grizzle when dinner is cooked).

Adult conversation, DD1 wandered off and fiddled with things, so I spent her toddler years following her about keeping her out of trouble. I just longed to be allowed to sit and have a cup of coffee and a chat like the Mum's who's DC's stayed in sight and played with toys.

Interesting food, even at 11 Dd2 is still a right fuss pot. If we're out the restaurant has to have something she'll eat.
At home I always end up with a pan of mushroom's, peppers etc. to add after serving her.

Browsing in a book shop, nipping into a shop for milk, my duck egg blue linen sofa, carpets free from toys, spending money on myself!

God yes, waking up naturally, when I want to, because I have had enough sleep.

Eating dinner before 8.30 at night.

Having something else to talk about than a) your baby, or b) the other babies at baby group...

I miss being able to go to sleep when I want to, for as long as I want to, without being disturbed.
Being able to come and go whenever I please
Being able to go to the pub/out for dinner and not be worrying every 5 seconds that he is going to throw a tantrum/run around sticking his fingers in other peoples food
LIE INS (big one, that)
Just the peace really - having time to read a book, watch what I want on telly instead of endless Mickey Mouse Clubhouse and Babys First Words books.

But in retrospect, none of these things have a huge impact really. I wouldnt send him back ;)

SWEARING.

Lie-ins too, but the not being able to swear is a bugger.

Waking up naturaly, then lazing in bed with a paper and a coffee.

I miss not being able to run across the road to the local shop. I now have a stubborn 16 month old that has to walk and refuses physically to go in his pram. And not only does he have to walk, he likes to stop to stare at flowers try pick up rubbish bark at dogs, stop to babble at passer-bys, walk diagonally, point at various things around him, shout at cars. A quick 2 minute run for milk? No, a 20 minute stroll turns into me buying more stuff I might need so I don't have to go again!

And my flat stomach :o

Sex. Or more specifically lazy sunday morning sex as opposed to keep-it-quick-cos-it's-late-and-we-have-to-get-up-early sex. Sigh...

lol perfectstorm, thats a good one. I had a moment in the car the other day when we were lost, and I forgot myself and said "Oh, for fucks sake!" cue bat eared ds piping up from his carseat "fuck!"... " well done darling, you can say duck! duck! quack quack!"...

downbythewater - Or 'I've just put her down she might sleep for 30 mins if we're lucky but I also have to make the bottles up so really we only have 15 minutes' sex...

Being able to take a long bath without at least one ds trying to jump in with me...

Reading a newspaper in peace without little hands trying to rip it to shreds.

Having money to burn and only myself and dp to spend it on!

Don't worry, it will all be over quickly and before you know it you will miss the use of your car as your 18 year old son or daughter borrows it......

What I missed was being able to do anyting much spontaneously - there was always 2 children to consider!

Being able to go upstairs without a random child coming to the top of the stair asking what I'm doing

Sex whenever we want it, now it's ooh DD2 hasn't started yet we can have a quickie

Def the popping to the shop and the impromptu drinks after work, actually any type of social occasion though that's more to do with the lack of friends

I miss everything that has been mentioned already. Most of all I miss the freedom, the money , my sanity, my hobbies, etc etc but mainly my sanity. Have 2 under 4 so have been doing this for nearly 4 years and starting to wonder when it all becomes worth it quite frankly.

Sorry been having a rough time of it recently both me and dh so feeling bit sorry for myself

I miss good sleep. DS is 4 and DD 2 but I still have to contend with a few wakings most nights.

I miss going to the cinema too, I just don't go anymore whereas I used to generally know what was on. I can't remember the last time I read the newspaper on the weekend.

Sadly I also miss be able to leave work when I finished a task as opposed to 5 to do the mad dash to get to nursery on time.

Vicky - it's SO USEFUL that bugger sounds like buggy.

My mother said "cunt" the other day. Thankfully kiddo didn't pick up on it. I was not a happy camper though. Can't imagine we'd have a lot of playdates if he started teaching the other preschoolers.

One day I will stubb my toe and be able to scream FUUUUUUCK! to my heart's content again.

Sleep.
Good, nourishing deep 7/8hour sleep. Waking up naturally on the weekends. Ah, sleep.

Sitting down with a cup of coffee and a book on my own.

Eating anything (especially chocolate) without a kid demanding to know what I'm eating and that she wants it.

Sleep. Oh, I miss sleeping so much.

Ringing in sick.

Roll on retirement...

Choceyes, I could write exactly what you said at times, hang in there chicken
My 'miss list' goes:-

standing on a crumb-free floor
reasonably tidy house
getting out of house without a good hour of planning and sibling arguments
cup of tea/coffee in peace
reading in peace
watching a TV programme....in peace
doing a hobby....in peace
having a bath....in peace
listening to some music...in peace
not having to listen to the incessent beeping of an electronic game
not cooking if you don't want to

Add infinitum....

Lie ins.
Being able to text a friend and say "Do you fancy a pint after work?"
My social life, which has generally taken a battering (see above).
Holidays.
Having spare money.
Not feeling guilty if I buy something for me.
Sex in our bed (DD is still in our room).
Going to the theatre and cinema lots.