Should I stay or should I go?

[teacups]

My best friend bought me a weekend trip to Spain with her for my birthday last September when DD was 5 months old. At the time, I was reluctant to go as I was worried about leaving DD. She rather talked me into it, and said I would feel much more confident by the time the weekend came.

Well, I am due to go in 2 weeks' time and am still feeling rather apprehensive. DH has got the time off work and thinks it would be good for me to have a break but my mother has had a go at me and wonders what kind of mother leaves her child to go away for a weekend. I am not worried about DD from her point of view as I know she will have a great time with DH (and has stayed with him many times when I have been out or at work) but I have never left her overnight and feel worried that I will miss her too much.

So, in the words of the Clash, should I stay or should I go? Any advice gratefully received.

Thank you.

thats ok thanks

if i don't hear from you before you go, i hope you have a lovely time, though i'm sure we would all like to hear from you. you will think of her loads, but think of how lovely that first hug will be when you get back (((((hugs)))))

good luck for tomorrow teacups hope you have a good flight. have you started the packing yet?!

not yet. Had a couple of bad nights with DD and so currently on the sofa with a glass of wine. Comtemplating making the supper and a mental list of what I need to take.

Altogether now, "we're off to sunny spain, y viva espana..."

Back sunday. Talk then

xxx

how did it go teacups? (((hugs)))

Oh Fransmom, I had SUCH a great time but missed my lovely DD like anything. Left on Thurs and she waved goodbye at the door. Cried all the way to the bus stop then had a chat to myself and pulled myself together. Friday was great - I missed her but enjoyed doing my own thing. I work PT and so have 3 days a week without her and this felt like one of those (but much more fun!) and going out for the evening. Sometimes I only see DD asleep in her cot morning and night, and so it wasn't too weird having a day to myself.

Really mis on Sat though. Wanted to go home really, as I felt I'd had enough time for me and wanted DD there. We had a good day, shopping, eating, drinking, etc but I did feel that we could have done that in London then I could have seen DD in the night at least ! Never thought I would miss a night feed!! Kept pumping off and no worries on that score though.

She was SO thrilled to see me on Sunday monrning and I could have crushed her with cuddles! I'm not going away overnight now for many months. glad I went but really glad to be back.

Saw on the Amanda Holden thread that your DD born in April. So was mine - the 4th. When is your DD's birthday? So many memories, I was bouncing up and down this time last year but no luck!!

Thanks for all your support and encouragemnet = it's really thoughtful of you

XXXXXX

i felt like that when i went up to bro's. i had really bad crushing feeling inside, thinking i shouldn't be leaving her, i should be with her kind of thing. once i got there, i was thinking i can show her this, that and the other and you know what? i realised it wouldn't be fair on her with all the moving stuff and rushing about (my brother did have to tell me to shut up once or twice first!). maybe it was the same for you? you were able to experience things on your own, so to speak, then maybe when your dd old enough, you can show her. i'm glad you had a great time away in spain though, it's refreshed you and now you have more energy to give to your dd
as for the support thing, anytime

dd was born 26th at 20 to one in morning. i had been at hospital since half 8 the day before! she was a strapping 9lb 1/2oz (the last bit really hurt