Am I 'doing too much' for 10 month old

[benne81]

This follows on from a thread I put on development a couple of weeks back. Basically my baby loves to sit and doesn't do much else. Never transitioned from sitting to crawl position, can roll back to front but doesn't really go the other way (prob thinking about it, if he gets upset I pick him up) anyway I've started to get concerned that he not crawling and doesn't seem motivated to crawl and a couple of people inc childminder who I am settling him in with at the moment have said I'm doing too much for him.

So.. An I doing too much, I fon't particularly think I'm doing masses for him, not more than other people. The other day I left him in the room with all toys out of his reach and kept looking in the room to see if it would encourage him. He tried reaching for them briefly & then gave up and after about 5 mins when I came back in the room he was staring out the window at the trees!

Anyway my question is am I doing to much? did you actively encourage your DC to crawl? Should I just be ignoring him when he is getting frustrated so that he has the motivation? This parenting lark seems so confusing sometimes. Any advice massively appreciated.

Is he a big baby? Mine only started to sit reliably at 10 months!

No. You aren't doing too much. It's a baby. You can't do too much.

Crawling is not a development stage. Mine never did. He's 3.1 now and walks just fine.

Chill.

He has literally just rolled front to back!

He is 50th centile ish which I'm quite surprised about as both me and DH are on the small side!

I don't know Benne, but if it's any consolation my sister and I never crawled. My sister's DD didn't either. She is four now and totally fine.

It's really hard though. My DD is the same age as your Ds and I'm constantly worrying about what she is and isn't doing!

My teen is homeschooled, I sat this afternoon and studied 12 pages of maths so I could teach him for next week...am I doing too much?

Not that late to crawl, he'll crawl when he wants I'm sure it's nothing you're doing (or not doing).

People are odd. No one ever went to a job interview and were asked, "so at what age did you crawl? 12 months? OMG please leave now".

He sounds fine!

my ds1 was like this in the end we physically showed him how to lean forward and get into the crawling position and how to move his arms and legs, he just wasnt that interested in moving! he did get it soon after we showed him, he was just very steady once he sat up and he could reach and stretch and then sit back up etc, so never got from sitting to crawling position until we showed him how to, am pretty sure he would have got there eventually! but he was our first and we were excited for him to do things.

obviously we didnt force the issue, just showed him how to do it and then left him to his own devices.

they all vary tho all 5 of mine have learnt to crawl/walk at different ages, you cant tell the difference now! and as someone else said some babies never crawl, my dp didnt and didnt walk till 18mths it doesnt appear to have harmed him in anyway, he still ran the london marathon this year

It's not you doing too much for him. He's probably just learning other things that you can't see (like banking words he's starting to understand etc).

My DS is an earlier developer physically (crawling, walking etc) and I always responded when he whinged that he couldn't reach a toy but he was determined anyway. With young ones my theory is that there is so much for them to learn, only some of it visible when they learn it, they are all just going to do it in their own order.

My DD was the same. She would sit and stare or moan or shout but had absolutely no interest in going anywhere. My mum & friends said the same 'you're doing too much for her'... I worried about it like you, and tried all sorts of tricks to get her motivated, nothing worked. She's now 2.5, she eventually crawled at 14 mos for 3 weeks then started walking.

They are all so different :)

My dd started to crawl at 10.5 months. She spotted a tin of chocolate biscuits and suddenly crawled the length of the living room. Within 6weeks she was walking.
They all develop at their own rate. He'll move when he's ready. Try not to stress about it.

You can try to encorage her doing things like sitting a few feet away with favourite toy but i wouldn't let her get upset and frustrated trying to make her she will do things when she is ready.

DS is 5mo and can roll if he wants to but doesn't lots of people say leave him on his tummy until he does it but i don't see the point in getting him upset just so i can say he can roll.