What does UP parenting stand for?

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I mean the actual acronym "UP". I've read some of the thread about parenting without punishment/reward, so get the gist of this parenting style, but just can't work out what UP actually stands for (insert dimwit emoticon).

Thank you, SeventhEverything!

It's actually about children feeling unconditionally loved rather than love being given unconditionally. There can be a big difference between the two - not many parents would say they only love their children when they behave well, even if they use non-UP type methods.

It rather assumes that anyone else makes their DC feel 'conditionally' loved which is why it causes a lot of resentment.
Unfortunately it also one of those things that is easily misunderstood and it can be done well, but it can be done extremely badly.

I agree, exotic. IIRC the book says that in practice all children feel conditionally loved to some degree, but UP-ish-ness is characterised by a deliberate attempt to limit that as much as possible.

That is, the book says UP-ish-ness is characterised by...

Which is why it irritates me so much!