Yet again game of Snap ends up with ds(6) in tears

[Wallace]

Dd won (she's 2 years younger) and ds went storming up to his room in full strop. I calmly called upstairs to let him know storytime was about to start, gave him ample time to come down, then started the story.

He came down after I started reading and demanded that I start reading at the beginning of the chapter. I told him that if he asked nicely, I would (had only read about half a page). He refused to ask nicely, but hung around the room, shouting occasionally.

I finished the chapter and told them it was bedtime. Ds stated that he wasn't going to bed because he hadn't had a story. When I got him to bed he howled and yelled because he hadn't had a story. I told him again, calmly, that he had had a choice to listen to the story.

He is still lying in bed howling...

Anyone else's children very bad losers? And was I too tough?

Dd2 also 6 is exactly the same. She came second and Monopoly last night and screamed the house down and thumped the winner her sister).

and no you weren't too tough.

Thanks....nice to know he's not the only one :)

Just after I posted he called out asking if he could come downstairs. I asked why and he said it was a surprise. So I let him come and he came and gave me a big hug. We had a lovely cuddle, then I put him back to bed. He told me (without crying!)he still felt dissappointed that he missed the story.

He is now in bed a lot happier. I must have done something right - quite glad I stood my ground :)

My dd1s like that and rubs it in when she wins...runs round Whooping but crys and strops when she loses. Takes the fun out of the playing wanting to win so badly :(
Not too harsh.

Ahh thats lovely. I think you handled it brilliantly.

both my kids can be like that at times. To be honest i can't give you any advice because i think you handled it perfectly wallace. If you'd have given in then he would just use tantrums in the future to get his own way. you definately weren't too tough, well done you!!

i remember stropping when i lost bigtime- only with my family though. Couldn't contain my disappointment, i suppose. Have grown out of it now! One of my sons is similar and i do exactly what you did, Wallace.

my wonderful nephew was a terrible loser throughout his early childhood

he's just about got to grips with it now

he's 15 though

(but he really is a dream)

Ds is STILL a very bad loser, he's 8. He is trying not to be because we've told him he needs to work on it.

I don't think you were too tough

ds is a bad loser - for the first few weeks at footie practice, he used to burst into tears at the end if his team had lost! It was so embarrassing as he was the only one who cared enough to cry about it!

Now when he loses, he chants on the way to the car 'I'm not crying mummy, I'm not crying mummy' with little tears in his eyes as if he's trying to stop himself bursting into tears out loud!

I'm hoping they grow out of it at some stage.

My DS (6 too) is a terrible loser and games are really stressful ...
I think you did the right thing Wallace and I would do the same ... I think that our DS needs to learn that having a bad attitude during a game is unacceptable and that he will lose out all together if he doesn't play nicely.
I am hoping that he will improve as he get older.

Aww your poor ds foxinsocks LOL. Lots of bd losers then...I hope he grows out of it before he is 15

We also played Go Fish tonight which ds loves because he loves fish. Unfortunatley he gets upset everytime he has to give away some of his cards because he is emotionally attached to them, the wee softie! By the end dd was refusing to ask him for anything she knew he had because she didn't want to upset him...but she still won!

Thanks for the votes of confidence about the way I handled it...I was chuffed that I managed not to lose my temper