Accepting discipline from other adults...

[Scarredbutnotbroken]

I have a 3 year old. We spend a lot of time with other families with similar aged children. Sometimes they all get in, sometimes they squabble - as you'd expect. I have no issues with other parents telling off dd - within reason obviously but I think it's important she learns to listen to and respect other adults. I tick off the other kids if the need arises - most of the parents don't even bat an eyelid but one is having none of it and this is causing a weird social situation.
When I say tick off I mean preventative stuff - ordering a clutch of toddlers out of a bathroom where they are turning the taps on - not just randomly shouting at someone else's child for no good reason.
Thoughts?

Carry on regardless. If Princess/Prince Precious is that insecure, they'll probably end up giving you all a wide berth and the problem will be solved.

I work on the principle that a community raises a child

I fully expect another adult to tell my child off/distract/tell them they don't like a behaviour, and I will do the same to other children

I have only ever met 1 person who objected to this and she withdrew from the group and now has a very spoilt 9 year old who speaks to adults like dirt

Is the precious parent allowing their child to play unsupervised with other children? If so, they must surely expect other adults to 'guide' the children's behaviour.

Thanks folks. Chedders- yes and no - theres generally a lot of helicoptering - its only lately that this kid has strayed far enough from parent to even be told off by another adult.

What cogito and workshy said.

Our group has always been like this too - we met when our children were tiny babies and we've always felt comfortable with comforting each other;s children if they fall over, putting on sun cream, sharing food, and now as they get older, giving mild rebukes. It does feel a bit weird but so far it's mainly been a "no pushing" or "I think so and so was playing with that" - I think any serious telling off would be done by the actual parent, but ours are still young at the moment.

I also think it's important that he learns to accept this from other adults.

I would carry on regardless, I agree with Ozziegirly, it is important to accept this from other adults. I think it is quite funny when they say 'you can't tell me off, you are not my mummy' because I can and I will!
Just ignore them and don't enter discussion about it, they will get used to it. Some parents think they can arrange the child's entire environment and they can't.

Thanks all. Finding this issue really hard as the parents are loyal friends but this is becoming more of an issue. I feel bad about the majority dictating the social norms but otoh I don't thi k, after your replies that any of us are being U.
This family are getting increasing controlling and micro managing their child's environment and though I don't want to say my parenting is better, as I said - it's causing social issues

I might just say to the parents...'oh 'precious' is doing such and such...I've spoken to the other children involved...could you come and sort out 'precious' please?'....invite them to take control of their child if they seem weird about other people doing the job for them!!! 'I'd have done it but I can see that you prefer to take charge yourselves'...'thanks'

It gets much harder if the parents are crap at parenting though...let their precious do whatever...they tend to giggle like it's funny or something!!! GGgggrrrrr!!!

God there would be no giggling! Id cope better with that! No this is a terribly serious parent