Tell me how I'm going to get through this summer

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I love my DC and I love spending time with them, I'm very much looking forward to having them at home all summer (first time I haven't had to work at least part of it)

But, DS1 starts secondary in Sept and I'm so worried for him. He seems pretty relaxed about it, but I'm stressing over every little thing. I worry if he'll find a friendship group, if he'll cope with the work (and if he'll work hard enough) I'm worried about the equipment he needs and If I'll mess things up for him by getting the wrong shoes/bag etc. I worry about him going on the bus, about any friends he does make living a long way from us. I'm worried that his SATS (whilst OK) might mean he's in sets where there aren't high expectations, but also that there might be too much pressure.

I don't know what's the matter with me, I've been ridiculously tense all week. I'm not typically much of a worrier, I was really excited for him when he got the place at this school. I wasn't at all stressed when he started school, just excited about the next phase, but this is driving me mad.

And of course I must make sure my stress doesn't rub off on DS1, especially as he seems so relaxed about it all ATM.

I've got the leavers prom and assembly to deal with over the next two days...

I think you're suffering from mildly manic end-of-term-itis. After 10 weeks of homework, mornings, SATS, leavers' dos, school fairs, residential trips and whatever else has been thrown at you in the maelstron that is Y6, you probably need a break. Set aside a week early August to buy clothes and kit. Then forget about it. The nice thing I found about Y7 was that the children have to step up and take more responsibility for themselves. Aside from the normal homework reminders, they quickly become more self-sufficient. :)

You're right Cogito, Ds1 was away on residential last week and all the routines have been out of kilter for a few of weeks while all the end of term stuff goes on.

We're busy everyday next week which is great and hopefully means I won't be able to think about it too much. I think I'm putting pressure on myself to have done all the (mostly non-existent) things that will mean me needing to get in touch with schools or DS1s friends before they break-up