DS2 so upset in nusery

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I have just gone back to work after 6 months maternity leave, I would of loved to have another 6 months off, but just couldnt afford to stay off.
My ds2 is booked in one day a week at our local nusery, he is five months old. Dh picked him up and he was so upset, the girls in the nusery tried everything to calm him down, but this didnt seem to help.I trust the nursery as I know it is a good one.
I feel so guilty about leaving him, I cried seeing him so upset and unsettled when dh got him home. I am actually considering giving up work.
Dh thinks that he will get used to it there and that maybe he was just having a bad day.
Cant get this guilty feeling out of my mind.

you have my total sympathies. it is the worst feeling thinking they have been there and been upset. my ds also went through periods of hating nursery and it makes you question all your decisions about work etc. From my experience i would say that there is a very good chance that your DH is right and there is a very good chance that once he settles into the nursery he will be fine.

I had similar feelings when my Dd started nursery aged 7 months (every afternoon). The first day she didn't eat ,drink, sleep properly, and looked like she'd just had a big cry. I felt so guilty putting her through it. But some advice I had been given was to wait a month before deciding to stop work. It didn't take her long to settle and she really loves going now and I'm sure it is helping her develop her social skills and she does loads of stuff we don't do at home (painting, sand/water play). So my advice is to wait. It might take her longer to settle as it's only 1 day a week, but give it time. Good luck.

my dd has been at nursery for a couple of weeks, she's 8 months. she's my second so i have a tiny bit more perspective, & she's a couple of months older than my ds was when he started nursery, but it's sooooooooo hard. she too was upset initially, wouldn't eat or drink anything (i'm still bf & she's not overly keen on bottles though will take one eventually) & cried. circumstances conspired against us, & after she settled in she didn't go to nursery for 2 weeks. she's doing 2 days a week. this week has been much much better, & i am feeling happier about it.

ds goes to the same nursery, & when dd gets upset she goes to visit him which apparently works a treat. would this work for you? i do think it's better for them to go at a younger age, a lot of friends' children went to nursery age 2 which was a nightmare - they can scream mummy at you to start with....

i think we're doing the right thing, but i'm not enjoying at the moment. ds (just 4) has got so much out of nursery which spurs me on. we just have to get over this bit. rhe reception you get when you seem them again is amazing too.

hope things work out for you, let us know.

oh, i meant to say, it's a huge change for the babies, from being with mummy all the time, so no wonder they're confused.