How do you decide whether to have child no 2?

[Ditherer]

I have been dithering about this for about the last 2 years! My ds is almost 5, and is wonderful (has his moments though!). I have just hit 40, work p/t as an office manager and have started a p/t degree last October. Thing is, I'm not sure if we should try for child no 2. DH works away a fair bit, although we do have family nearby who help out. We've now got used to the extra £500 a month we used to pay in nursery fees, which wouldn't be easy to give up. My dh says he would be 'happy either way' (classic fence-sitter; if it wasn't for me we wouldn't be married let alone parents!!)and we have had relationship problems too, although seem much better now. DS mentions frequently how he would like a little brother or sister (said wistfully as he gazes at friends with siblings). How do you make the decision whether to go for it or not?? I don't want to regret not going for it while I've still got the chance, but I'm not convinced enough either way to do anything- any advice???

Its a hard one, im dithering too. My dd is just 5 and we put off having number 2 because we moved country and now im not sure if ive left it too late. Yet last month I thought I was preggers and was so excited. I wasnt and ive gone back to dithering. will read this thread with interest.

I think that the fact that you are on here asking questions about it probably meens that deep down you want another baby and that for me is the best reason in the world. You lived without the money before I'm sure you can do it again.

Lucy5 if you got excited at the thought of being pg then you too should go for it.

Agree with flutterbee. That is what we did about having no. 2, and now that we have her we couldn't be happier. However there are no dithering thoughts about no. 3. We both are very confident we are done.